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<blockquote data-quote="donna723" data-source="post: 139633" data-attributes="member: 1883"><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="color: #000000"><strong><em>"My biggest problem is that.. difficult child is <u>exercising her rights</u> coz she is a mom and an adult. She has already started talking to old male friends on the phone. Asking them to hang out. She said she doesnt mind going out late at night when her friends get off work <u>(she will take the baby with her)".</u></em></strong> </span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="color: #000000">I don't mean to be unkind, and maybe it's just me, but some of this is just appalling! Yes, she has certain rights as an adult. But along with exercising her adult "rights", she must be willing to accept adult <strong><u>RESPONSIBILITY</u></strong>! And being the mother of a two-week old baby is just about the <em><strong>biggest</strong></em> responsibility she will ever have! I see a HUGE amount of immaturity here. If she is ever going to be a caring, responsible mother to this child, she MUST get it through her head that HIS needs must come first and that putting his needs first will require a considerable amount of sacrifice on <u>her</u> part. That's part of being a mother! She exercised her "adult rights" when she decided to bring that child into this world and become affiliated with that goofy family. The "responsibillity" part is being willing to live with the consequences - an innocent two week old baby who depends on her and deserves much better.</span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="color: #000000">I have seen these situations work out, but only when the parents made it extremely clear to the girl that it is ultimately HER baby and HER responsibility. Yes, they help out (giving her a place to live, food, maybe medical expenses for her and the baby) but they DO NOT assume responsibility for the baby, virtually raising it themselves while the girl goes back to her carefree pre-baby life! Two weeks after giving birth, running around and partying with old boyfriends should be the furthest thing from her mind! And to take a <u>two week old baby</u> with her to late night meet-ups with her friends is so far out there, there are just no words! What she should be doing right now is staying home to care for and bond with her child, recuperating from the birth, helping out around the house as much as she is able to as repayment for the room and board she is receiving, and making serious plans for the future for herself and her child so that she is someday able to stand on her own feet and care for her child.</span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="color: #000000">If she does what she wants to here, late night meet-ups with old boyfriends, taking the baby along, she will end up losing custody of that baby for sure! The "father's" family has already clearly shown that they are sneaky and underhanded and will do anything to get that baby, and you better believe that they will find out she's doing this! She's playing right in to their hands! And when it does get back to them, they will go straight to their attorney and your daughter will have her baby taken from her and given to them! You can bet on it!</span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="donna723, post: 139633, member: 1883"] [FONT=Arial][COLOR=#000000][B][I]"My biggest problem is that.. difficult child is [U]exercising her rights[/U] coz she is a mom and an adult. She has already started talking to old male friends on the phone. Asking them to hang out. She said she doesnt mind going out late at night when her friends get off work [U](she will take the baby with her)".[/U][/I][/B] [/COLOR][/FONT] [FONT=Arial][COLOR=#000000]I don't mean to be unkind, and maybe it's just me, but some of this is just appalling! Yes, she has certain rights as an adult. But along with exercising her adult "rights", she must be willing to accept adult [B][U]RESPONSIBILITY[/U][/B]! And being the mother of a two-week old baby is just about the [I][B]biggest[/B][/I] responsibility she will ever have! I see a HUGE amount of immaturity here. If she is ever going to be a caring, responsible mother to this child, she MUST get it through her head that HIS needs must come first and that putting his needs first will require a considerable amount of sacrifice on [U]her[/U] part. That's part of being a mother! She exercised her "adult rights" when she decided to bring that child into this world and become affiliated with that goofy family. The "responsibillity" part is being willing to live with the consequences - an innocent two week old baby who depends on her and deserves much better.[/COLOR][/FONT] [FONT=Arial][COLOR=#000000]I have seen these situations work out, but only when the parents made it extremely clear to the girl that it is ultimately HER baby and HER responsibility. Yes, they help out (giving her a place to live, food, maybe medical expenses for her and the baby) but they DO NOT assume responsibility for the baby, virtually raising it themselves while the girl goes back to her carefree pre-baby life! Two weeks after giving birth, running around and partying with old boyfriends should be the furthest thing from her mind! And to take a [U]two week old baby[/U] with her to late night meet-ups with her friends is so far out there, there are just no words! What she should be doing right now is staying home to care for and bond with her child, recuperating from the birth, helping out around the house as much as she is able to as repayment for the room and board she is receiving, and making serious plans for the future for herself and her child so that she is someday able to stand on her own feet and care for her child.[/COLOR][/FONT] [FONT=Arial][/FONT] [FONT=Arial][COLOR=#000000]If she does what she wants to here, late night meet-ups with old boyfriends, taking the baby along, she will end up losing custody of that baby for sure! The "father's" family has already clearly shown that they are sneaky and underhanded and will do anything to get that baby, and you better believe that they will find out she's doing this! She's playing right in to their hands! And when it does get back to them, they will go straight to their attorney and your daughter will have her baby taken from her and given to them! You can bet on it![/COLOR][/FONT] [/QUOTE]
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