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difficult child out of jail, refuses rehab, I'm losing all hope for him
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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 508922" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>PV...my son is not what I would call an addict in the true sense but he does smoke pot. I think it does him more good than all the psychiatric drugs they had him on for the last umpteen years ever did so I turn a blind eye. Did he do some of what he did to get money for pot? Maybe but I dont really think so. Now the largest thing he did...yeah maybe but it was done because he was talked into it by women. </p><p></p><p>Mostly my son had really bad anger issues and impulse control problems. He couldnt see farther down the road than his nose. Oddly enough he is getting better about that than almost all of us except his eldest brother...lol. He has calmed down so much. You can have actual conversations with him that make sense. Now his girlfriend? She is another story. You might as well just figure everything she says is a lie. She ticks me off badly. I was so upset that they had the baby and I am buying a DNA test on the sly and sending it in. Baby looks nothing like us and a whole lot like a friend of theirs. A Puerto Rican kid who was around all the time back then. Sigh. We are already not 100% sure about keyana...sure not gonna go through another one. </p><p></p><p>My son was horrible in his teens but wasnt too bad from 17 and a half till 18 and then at 18 he really did well until he met his first baby's mom two months before he turned 19. She was 3 years older than him...well almost three. She turned 3 months older than him 4 months after she met him. She is really a cradle robber extraordinaire. With her first son she got pregnant with a 14 year old when she was 18. Yeah...that put him in 8th grade. Middle school while she was a senior! She was out of school when she had the baby and he had just started his first year of high school at 15. You can bet if that had been my son she would have gone to jail as a sex offender and I would be raising that baby. (And we wouldnt be having the issues we are having with her over Keyana!) She didnt even raise her first son really. She lived with her mom most of that time and her mom had her son most of the time. He called his grandmother momma and Lindsay was Lindsay. Cory met the little boy when he was 3 and she ended up pregnant with Keyana within 3 months of meeting him. She actually knew Cory was on SSI and even went down to Social Security within the first week of her finding out she was pregnant to find out if she could get his check! They told her because he was getting SSI and not SSDI, Keyana wasnt eligible for Child Support. I guess if that made a difference to her she could have aborted the baby. Lindsay makes bad choices in men. Between her mom and our family we supported her during her pregnancy and then when the baby was born, Cory lived with us for years and he had Keyana at 11 days old for his first weeks visitation. That went on for awhile until Lindsay moved in with us for almost the entire first year of Keyana's life. Then at sometime right before Keyana turned one, Lindsay must have met her current husband because he is a military guy..still younger than she is...but she got married to him right after she convinced Cory to steal over a thousand dollars from me and take her to hotels and have one last fling. 4 days she got married. I had so hoped that she signed one of the checks but she was too smart for that so I had to prosecute my son only even though I knew she was in on it. People told me she was there talking him into it. He gave her money! Bought her all kinds of stuff. Thats why when she cries poor pitiful thing who hasnt gotten child support I get so mad. But I swore out felony warrant against Cory and got the cops to come arrest him at my house. It was hard because it was three warrants for felonies that I knew where going to really damage his life. He could have gone away for a long time. Thankfully I was able to talk to both sides and we worked out a fairly good deal that was difficult for him but it made his life hard but he had to comply for 3 years or he would go to prison. He had to serve some jail time and some house arrest. They really were pretty good to us about the house arrest even though he was on the ankle bracelet. they gave him from 8 am to 12 noon off because I am disabled and I needed him to feed out lifestock which was out of range of the monitor so they allowed him time off to do that and they also realized he had Keyana some days and he might have to take her to a doctor or something so he was allowed to do that if we called in and told them. We had to attempt to get it from 8 to noon but if it ran over it was okay with a doctors note. But heaven help him without a dr note. And his PO showed up at the house every night like clockwork and sometimes twice. You just never knew. </p><p></p><p>What happened to him was hard but it taught him that the law wasnt playing anymore. He had gone to court so many times and they had just slapped him on the wrist and let him go. I knew one day it wouldnt happen again. I think it needs to happen the first time so people learn it isnt fun and they dont want to come back. No simple slaps.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 508922, member: 1514"] PV...my son is not what I would call an addict in the true sense but he does smoke pot. I think it does him more good than all the psychiatric drugs they had him on for the last umpteen years ever did so I turn a blind eye. Did he do some of what he did to get money for pot? Maybe but I dont really think so. Now the largest thing he did...yeah maybe but it was done because he was talked into it by women. Mostly my son had really bad anger issues and impulse control problems. He couldnt see farther down the road than his nose. Oddly enough he is getting better about that than almost all of us except his eldest brother...lol. He has calmed down so much. You can have actual conversations with him that make sense. Now his girlfriend? She is another story. You might as well just figure everything she says is a lie. She ticks me off badly. I was so upset that they had the baby and I am buying a DNA test on the sly and sending it in. Baby looks nothing like us and a whole lot like a friend of theirs. A Puerto Rican kid who was around all the time back then. Sigh. We are already not 100% sure about keyana...sure not gonna go through another one. My son was horrible in his teens but wasnt too bad from 17 and a half till 18 and then at 18 he really did well until he met his first baby's mom two months before he turned 19. She was 3 years older than him...well almost three. She turned 3 months older than him 4 months after she met him. She is really a cradle robber extraordinaire. With her first son she got pregnant with a 14 year old when she was 18. Yeah...that put him in 8th grade. Middle school while she was a senior! She was out of school when she had the baby and he had just started his first year of high school at 15. You can bet if that had been my son she would have gone to jail as a sex offender and I would be raising that baby. (And we wouldnt be having the issues we are having with her over Keyana!) She didnt even raise her first son really. She lived with her mom most of that time and her mom had her son most of the time. He called his grandmother momma and Lindsay was Lindsay. Cory met the little boy when he was 3 and she ended up pregnant with Keyana within 3 months of meeting him. She actually knew Cory was on SSI and even went down to Social Security within the first week of her finding out she was pregnant to find out if she could get his check! They told her because he was getting SSI and not SSDI, Keyana wasnt eligible for Child Support. I guess if that made a difference to her she could have aborted the baby. Lindsay makes bad choices in men. Between her mom and our family we supported her during her pregnancy and then when the baby was born, Cory lived with us for years and he had Keyana at 11 days old for his first weeks visitation. That went on for awhile until Lindsay moved in with us for almost the entire first year of Keyana's life. Then at sometime right before Keyana turned one, Lindsay must have met her current husband because he is a military guy..still younger than she is...but she got married to him right after she convinced Cory to steal over a thousand dollars from me and take her to hotels and have one last fling. 4 days she got married. I had so hoped that she signed one of the checks but she was too smart for that so I had to prosecute my son only even though I knew she was in on it. People told me she was there talking him into it. He gave her money! Bought her all kinds of stuff. Thats why when she cries poor pitiful thing who hasnt gotten child support I get so mad. But I swore out felony warrant against Cory and got the cops to come arrest him at my house. It was hard because it was three warrants for felonies that I knew where going to really damage his life. He could have gone away for a long time. Thankfully I was able to talk to both sides and we worked out a fairly good deal that was difficult for him but it made his life hard but he had to comply for 3 years or he would go to prison. He had to serve some jail time and some house arrest. They really were pretty good to us about the house arrest even though he was on the ankle bracelet. they gave him from 8 am to 12 noon off because I am disabled and I needed him to feed out lifestock which was out of range of the monitor so they allowed him time off to do that and they also realized he had Keyana some days and he might have to take her to a doctor or something so he was allowed to do that if we called in and told them. We had to attempt to get it from 8 to noon but if it ran over it was okay with a doctors note. But heaven help him without a dr note. And his PO showed up at the house every night like clockwork and sometimes twice. You just never knew. What happened to him was hard but it taught him that the law wasnt playing anymore. He had gone to court so many times and they had just slapped him on the wrist and let him go. I knew one day it wouldnt happen again. I think it needs to happen the first time so people learn it isnt fun and they dont want to come back. No simple slaps. [/QUOTE]
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