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difficult child out of jail, refuses rehab, I'm losing all hope for him
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<blockquote data-quote="Tiredof33" data-source="post: 509036" data-attributes="member: 13558"><p>It is so very hard! My difficult child told me often how much he hated me and I felt so helpless trying to 'fix' him. We try so much while they are still minors, but once they turn 18 there's not much we can do but pray.</p><p></p><p>My daughter stayed in the program and attended meetings for years and I know that is what it takes, but my son just doesn't get it and I'm beginning to think he never will.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Watching my relative work long hours to support her adult difficult child helps me to detach, but we all know it still hurts. What put him in prison was him stealing from her boss while they were at a dinner at my relatives house. Even sicker is the fact that we all know (our family) the father is the one that talked the son into doing it. The father is about 21 years older (now deceased) and his medication for his illness really made him act weird. But that's no excuse, the son had to want to do it, no one made him. My thinking is the drugs made it sound like a good idea. The mother had to testify and she told the truth, so the son blames her for his prison time. I honestly think she feels guilty and that is why she will be suppporting him for the rest of his life.</p><p></p><p>No mother wants to think her child has no place to stay or food to eat, but I have to keep telling myself that it is his choices that got him there.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tiredof33, post: 509036, member: 13558"] It is so very hard! My difficult child told me often how much he hated me and I felt so helpless trying to 'fix' him. We try so much while they are still minors, but once they turn 18 there's not much we can do but pray. My daughter stayed in the program and attended meetings for years and I know that is what it takes, but my son just doesn't get it and I'm beginning to think he never will. Watching my relative work long hours to support her adult difficult child helps me to detach, but we all know it still hurts. What put him in prison was him stealing from her boss while they were at a dinner at my relatives house. Even sicker is the fact that we all know (our family) the father is the one that talked the son into doing it. The father is about 21 years older (now deceased) and his medication for his illness really made him act weird. But that's no excuse, the son had to want to do it, no one made him. My thinking is the drugs made it sound like a good idea. The mother had to testify and she told the truth, so the son blames her for his prison time. I honestly think she feels guilty and that is why she will be suppporting him for the rest of his life. No mother wants to think her child has no place to stay or food to eat, but I have to keep telling myself that it is his choices that got him there. [/QUOTE]
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