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<blockquote data-quote="DadRich" data-source="post: 106377" data-attributes="member: 645"><p>Hi Nancy! </p><p></p><p>Please keep in mind when I share my 'forceful' opinion, those who know me also know that I NEVER raise my voice or be a part of the 'anger' that goes with some of the difficult child's out there. </p><p></p><p>Everything I say during a potentially physical confrontation is kept at a low tone (very low) but very matter of factly. Our Sheriff's Dept. is large (we are in a suburb of St. Paul, MN) and they too know me and the kids I have raised (sadly!)</p><p></p><p>Years ago, I gave Tim a choice (he was one of my worst). He could comply with some request (basic) or he could choose to be oppositional. He immediately became physically aggressive and the police were called. He was hauled away. BAD choice but it is one HE made. After another 'try' or two, he found himself in a similar situation. This time he chose to cool off and comply, knowing full well the consequences of his choice could be significant.</p><p></p><p>Tim (who is Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)) turned out an adult sociopath, however, he was given the tools to keep himself out of trouble with the law. That basic 1+1 = 2 logic is something he now has.</p><p></p><p>By the way, things with this group did occaisionally involve local law enforcement. I started that by sitting down with the cops, at their office, and explaning to them what I was up against saying "Boy I think your help is warranted here". They agreed and have been there for me ever since although I am happy to report, that other than hauling Chris to the hospital during a mental crisis, they havent had much need to come here anymore!!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DadRich, post: 106377, member: 645"] Hi Nancy! Please keep in mind when I share my 'forceful' opinion, those who know me also know that I NEVER raise my voice or be a part of the 'anger' that goes with some of the difficult child's out there. Everything I say during a potentially physical confrontation is kept at a low tone (very low) but very matter of factly. Our Sheriff's Dept. is large (we are in a suburb of St. Paul, MN) and they too know me and the kids I have raised (sadly!) Years ago, I gave Tim a choice (he was one of my worst). He could comply with some request (basic) or he could choose to be oppositional. He immediately became physically aggressive and the police were called. He was hauled away. BAD choice but it is one HE made. After another 'try' or two, he found himself in a similar situation. This time he chose to cool off and comply, knowing full well the consequences of his choice could be significant. Tim (who is Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)) turned out an adult sociopath, however, he was given the tools to keep himself out of trouble with the law. That basic 1+1 = 2 logic is something he now has. By the way, things with this group did occaisionally involve local law enforcement. I started that by sitting down with the cops, at their office, and explaning to them what I was up against saying "Boy I think your help is warranted here". They agreed and have been there for me ever since although I am happy to report, that other than hauling Chris to the hospital during a mental crisis, they havent had much need to come here anymore!!!! [/QUOTE]
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