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<blockquote data-quote="jbrain" data-source="post: 259724" data-attributes="member: 3450"><p>KJS,</p><p>I had to let go of my dreams of high academic achievement for my difficult child 2/easy child. She did extremely well in school until she got to middle school. I spent many years frustrated with her because I knew she had the intelligence to do very well and she should have been on a college bound track. I really had to come to terms with the fact that her emotional problems were too big for her to also do well academically. I laid off completely because I was just making everything more stressful for her. I let her know that her mental health came first and whatever happened with school could be dealt with. It meant she sometimes was on homebound instruction, spent her whole summer between 10th and 11th grade having to make up incompletes in order to get to 11th grade after basically failing all her 10th grade classes.</p><p></p><p>It was hard to see this really smart kid who was friends with kids in the honors and AP classes struggle so but once I really got it that the academics were just not that important in the grand scheme of things I felt better and she actually is doing better now. She told me yesterday that she had gotten a C on an accounting test and she has been very depressed for a couple of months (seeming to come out of it now) and also was physically sick for about a month. I was so proud of her. Yes, I know she could get A's in every class if she was just a "normal" kid. But now her goal and mine too is to just get the diploma and get on with life.</p><p></p><p>Anyway, congrats to difficult child!!!!!</p><p></p><p>Jane</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="jbrain, post: 259724, member: 3450"] KJS, I had to let go of my dreams of high academic achievement for my difficult child 2/easy child. She did extremely well in school until she got to middle school. I spent many years frustrated with her because I knew she had the intelligence to do very well and she should have been on a college bound track. I really had to come to terms with the fact that her emotional problems were too big for her to also do well academically. I laid off completely because I was just making everything more stressful for her. I let her know that her mental health came first and whatever happened with school could be dealt with. It meant she sometimes was on homebound instruction, spent her whole summer between 10th and 11th grade having to make up incompletes in order to get to 11th grade after basically failing all her 10th grade classes. It was hard to see this really smart kid who was friends with kids in the honors and AP classes struggle so but once I really got it that the academics were just not that important in the grand scheme of things I felt better and she actually is doing better now. She told me yesterday that she had gotten a C on an accounting test and she has been very depressed for a couple of months (seeming to come out of it now) and also was physically sick for about a month. I was so proud of her. Yes, I know she could get A's in every class if she was just a "normal" kid. But now her goal and mine too is to just get the diploma and get on with life. Anyway, congrats to difficult child!!!!! Jane [/QUOTE]
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