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<blockquote data-quote="rejectedmom" data-source="post: 232326" data-attributes="member: 2315"><p>OK here it is in a nutshell. difficult child got out of prison shortly before Thanksgiving. He is in a good program with housing living real close by. He has creditors after him for his manic spending last time he was out and we offered to help him pay the bills by letting him do difficult chores here under our supervision. husband told him the plan when I was out of the room and all I was privy to when I joined the conversation was that difficult child had been told we wouldlet him work off the bill. difficult child left here to have lunch at the program residence and then will meet with his AA sponsor. </p><p></p><p>Only then does my husband tell me that difficult child has slipped and his PO has told him that one more episode and he is to be sent back to prison. Well I'm miffed because I only came up with the plan to help difficult child with his bills because I thought he was doing good. Now I find out that he is not and husband has already given him the plan and the hope of climbing out from under the weight of his past indiscretions. I told husband that I wouldn't have made the offer if I had known about the drinking episode and husband tells me to call difficult child and tell him the deal is off if I want to. So husband doesn't inform me of new developements, lays out the program as he and I talked about when we both thought difficult child was doing well, and now that I have misgivings due to the new information I am to be the heavy and tell difficult child the deal is off. ARG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! </p><p></p><p>The bill I am supposed to pay and let difficult child work off is for almost $500. Not sure what to do as I only wanted to help difficult child out because I thought he was helping himself. In light of the new information I am wondering if I go ahead with the plan am I now enabling him? It is a "do to get" set up but I need to pay the bill up frount or difficult child will be taken to court immediately. Thoughts comments and ideas are welcome as long as they do not involve doing harm to my husband. LOL -RM</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rejectedmom, post: 232326, member: 2315"] OK here it is in a nutshell. difficult child got out of prison shortly before Thanksgiving. He is in a good program with housing living real close by. He has creditors after him for his manic spending last time he was out and we offered to help him pay the bills by letting him do difficult chores here under our supervision. husband told him the plan when I was out of the room and all I was privy to when I joined the conversation was that difficult child had been told we wouldlet him work off the bill. difficult child left here to have lunch at the program residence and then will meet with his AA sponsor. Only then does my husband tell me that difficult child has slipped and his PO has told him that one more episode and he is to be sent back to prison. Well I'm miffed because I only came up with the plan to help difficult child with his bills because I thought he was doing good. Now I find out that he is not and husband has already given him the plan and the hope of climbing out from under the weight of his past indiscretions. I told husband that I wouldn't have made the offer if I had known about the drinking episode and husband tells me to call difficult child and tell him the deal is off if I want to. So husband doesn't inform me of new developements, lays out the program as he and I talked about when we both thought difficult child was doing well, and now that I have misgivings due to the new information I am to be the heavy and tell difficult child the deal is off. ARG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! The bill I am supposed to pay and let difficult child work off is for almost $500. Not sure what to do as I only wanted to help difficult child out because I thought he was helping himself. In light of the new information I am wondering if I go ahead with the plan am I now enabling him? It is a "do to get" set up but I need to pay the bill up frount or difficult child will be taken to court immediately. Thoughts comments and ideas are welcome as long as they do not involve doing harm to my husband. LOL -RM [/QUOTE]
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