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<blockquote data-quote="Calamity Jane" data-source="post: 627785" data-attributes="member: 13882"><p>Hi Stress Bunny,</p><p>He's 20 - difficult children are notoriously slow in reaching emotional maturity. He's probably more like 15, even though his chronological age is 20. There's family history there, for sure. Your positive, loving environment probably helped somewhat, but he's going to do what he wants to do. </p><p>The sociopathic chameleon you described fit my difficult child to a "t" when he was 17, 18 y/o. My difficult child also relished exploiting my fears about what would befall him, and he would taunt me with his poor choices. I talked about it with my sister-in-law, a nurse, and she said realistically, less than 1% of the population is truly sociopathic and it was probably more emotional and substance abuse related. I don't know in your case, but I would've bet the farm my son was sociopathic, but he's changed and matured quite a bit, and seems to be substance abuse-free.</p><p>Please get help for yourself and husband. My husband and I found great solace in private therapy. We strongly encouraged difficult child to get help also, and sometimes he did, sometimes he didn't, but we never let that stop us. It IS very depleting, depressing and exhausting, and I don't think the worry ever really stops. All of us make lots of choices each day, and you and husband would be wise to choose proper health, both mental and physical, for yourselves. If Al-anon isn't working, find somewhere else. Families Anonymous is also very good, I've heard. If you find solace, comfort and support in your faith, keep praying, and don't hesitate to ask others to pray for you and your family, too. It's hard, very hard, but with each other's support, you and husband will come through this.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Calamity Jane, post: 627785, member: 13882"] Hi Stress Bunny, He's 20 - difficult children are notoriously slow in reaching emotional maturity. He's probably more like 15, even though his chronological age is 20. There's family history there, for sure. Your positive, loving environment probably helped somewhat, but he's going to do what he wants to do. The sociopathic chameleon you described fit my difficult child to a "t" when he was 17, 18 y/o. My difficult child also relished exploiting my fears about what would befall him, and he would taunt me with his poor choices. I talked about it with my sister-in-law, a nurse, and she said realistically, less than 1% of the population is truly sociopathic and it was probably more emotional and substance abuse related. I don't know in your case, but I would've bet the farm my son was sociopathic, but he's changed and matured quite a bit, and seems to be substance abuse-free. Please get help for yourself and husband. My husband and I found great solace in private therapy. We strongly encouraged difficult child to get help also, and sometimes he did, sometimes he didn't, but we never let that stop us. It IS very depleting, depressing and exhausting, and I don't think the worry ever really stops. All of us make lots of choices each day, and you and husband would be wise to choose proper health, both mental and physical, for yourselves. If Al-anon isn't working, find somewhere else. Families Anonymous is also very good, I've heard. If you find solace, comfort and support in your faith, keep praying, and don't hesitate to ask others to pray for you and your family, too. It's hard, very hard, but with each other's support, you and husband will come through this. [/QUOTE]
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