Oh ML....I am having some issues with my older son. He has been in and out for several years. Due to loss of jobs and financial situations 6 years ago he had to quit college and move home. He was a good kid. Never a problem. Had a good job about an hour away for about a year. Had to travel a lot. Then, car broke down, girlfriend dumped him and he moved home.
He has worked as a bartender at a dumpy corner bar with local drunks. (other side of town). He likes the Party lifestyle and spent every dime he made.
He too would get SO angry if I touched his room. But it SMELLS. And MY house.
He has always been a big support for difficult child until recently.
The bar he worked at didn't pay him for two weeks, then shut down without notice. I have been paying his loan payment and cell phone bill since October. things got tough then and I thought I would be nice to help him through the holidays.
Now he is angry all the time, No job, No car, no money and just informed me he is moving home again. He is also 26. Instead of appreciating what I have done (we also gave him two cars ..old ones but they ran. No longer run, in junk yard)
He threw things in my direction and said some really hurtful nasty things yesterday. not just said...SCREAMED. Because I told him to get a job, any job I can't afford to pay his bills. And that coming in at 2 or 3 or 4am and getting up at 3pm isn't going to get him a job. I offered him my car or husband's car if he drove us to work. He said such mean and nasty things and threw a chair across the room, then left.
Can I send my son out by your step son...both 26, maybe they can live together !!! LOL.
We never had to enforce rules with him before. He was always a good kid. I am scared too.