I can't even believe it. I mean, I am at a loss. Yesterday morning I went to this discount grocery store out of town. I used my card there. Then I stopped at another store and used my other debit card for a different account. Then I went home. I unloaded groceries, cleaned out my car, and then difficult child asked me for money so she could buy some condoms . I said I'd buy them for her, but that I would not give her money. Off we went to Walgreens. I ran inside with my 'other' debit card to use and then chickened out so I bought other things and got $20 cash back to give her for the condoms. I gave her the $20 and then we went home. When I got home I only had a minute because I had to go to the hairdressers and difficult child left to go to her boyfriend's. Before I left for the hairdressers, I noticed my card was missing. I called the discount grocer and the other store to see if anyone had turned in my card - no. So, I called H to get the 800 number so I could cancel the card. I cancelled the card and went about my afternoon, confident that I had preempted any debit card theft. :: Flash forward to today and I had to go check out nursing homes for my mom and invited difficult child to come with. She said okay and off we went. When we passed the discount grocers I commented about how annoyed I was at losing my card because now I had to order a new one, wait, etc. And difficult child says, "uh, yeah I need to tell you something..." I was so distracted that I wasn't thinking and then she said, "I took your card yesterday because I needed gas, but then" (my mouth was hanging open at this point) "the machine ate your card, so it's really lost". :vote: Me: You went into my wallet and took my card? difficult child: No, it was on the table and I needed gas; I was going to bring it back. Me: So, if you left a $20 bill on your dresser, is it okay for me or easy child or H to take it? difficult child: NO! I know it was wrong and I'm sorry - at least I'm telling you about it! (starts crying) I was just kind of speechless at this point, so I didn't say anything. Then I swatted her head . A couple of times. We rode along in silence, visited a nursing home, talked some more about it. She told me how shocked she was that the machine ate my card, how her boyfriend told her she was in big trouble (but in bad words), her friends also told her how in trouble she was, etc. I could just listen, not speak. We visited 3 places total, spending approximately 2 hours at each. We got home around 4PM. I told difficult child she couldn't go out. She went out anyway. I should have taken the keys to the car, but I didn't think fast enough. I am angry with her. I know that many of you have dealth with difficult child's who steal your cash, wallets, jewelry, etc. I don't think that's what I'm dealing with, but it sure has made me think twice about things. When I get my new card, I am changing the pin. I'm also getting a new card for my other account and changing that pin, since it's the same! I'm going to hide my valuables. Tonight, H was going to tell difficult child that she had until the end of January to find a job or he was dropping her car from the insurance (for those of you who have told me to drop her already - H refused. That's why she is still on our ins - out of my hands). He never had the chance - she left. She'll be back later and I will get her keys and take them to work with me, so she can't go anywhere tomorrow. But still. My God. I am still stunned that she would cross that boundary and take my card. Me: "That's STEALING!!" difficult child: "I know and I'm sorry. I was on the phone half the night last night trying to get someone from the bank to meet me at the ATM and give me back your card" (I'm sorry, but Bwaaahaahaaaa - what an @$$!!!) Me: "What?!?!" difficult child: "Yeah, I was EVEN going to show you today the ATM it was so we could get it back" me: Duh - hello?? It's gone. We CAN'T get it back difficult child!!!