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difficult child switching physical aggression target from easy child to me?
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<blockquote data-quote="OpenWindow" data-source="post: 190729" data-attributes="member: 45"><p>Fran - I don't think it's the new school year. In fact, he is talking like he is enjoying school and we've gotten great reports. They say he is like a different kid than a year ago. I think he's stressed about the investigation and having to talk to all these people. He doesn't like the alarm on his door, and he doesn't think it's fair that he has to stay in there once he goes to bed for the night. He was also mad that he couldn't go swimming this weekend without me being there to surpervise because there were a bunch of little kids. He blames it all on me, if I hadn't told the counselor then he wouldn't have to have all these restrictions and have to talk to all these people. </p><p></p><p>Witz - He is a bully to his little sister, and has been to me. He is bullied by kids his age and older. He used to enjoy playing with younger kids, and was great with them. He used to get along with his little sister very well. Now he says he hates her. His counselor has even told me she's concerned because he seems to feel real hate towards her. This has been within the last year. He hates her friends and verbally bullies them, but not as much as her. He's never left a mark or seriously hurt her, but we are still very concerned that he pushes her and hits her. We've been working on it with his counselor since January. He touched her inappropriately in June. It happened to be one day when they were getting along - because they were getting along and he seemed to be in a very calm mood, I let them go swimming together while I watched from the other side of the window.</p><p></p><p>It was the only incident we know about, and I'm pretty confident it was the only time. He was hypersexual when he was younger, but hasn't been outwardly that way for probably around 5 years. I know it's a possibility there could have been more times, but I don't remember wavering from the fact that we only know about this one time. Since he does bully her we haven't let them be together unsupervised since last fall, so there wasn't much opportunity for anything to happen. We are requesting an evaluation from a sexual abuse program, but we're thinking it will help us keep him from being sent to a sexual offender Residential Treatment Center (RTC), and at the same time uncover any issues that are there so we can deal with it.</p><p></p><p>I really don't think he's angry I put the brakes on anything, but I'm sure he is angry at me for telling the counselor, which in turn caused all these consequences, at least in his eyes. He tells me he knows he was wrong, but it's still my fault because I didn't have to tell. Nothing I say or the counselor says seems to change his mind about this. I think that's where his anger comes from. </p><p></p><p>He really is being much more civil to his sister now. The odd thing is the coincidental timing between being nice to her and targeting me. I'd much prefer it to be me, but it still needs to be addressed.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="OpenWindow, post: 190729, member: 45"] Fran - I don't think it's the new school year. In fact, he is talking like he is enjoying school and we've gotten great reports. They say he is like a different kid than a year ago. I think he's stressed about the investigation and having to talk to all these people. He doesn't like the alarm on his door, and he doesn't think it's fair that he has to stay in there once he goes to bed for the night. He was also mad that he couldn't go swimming this weekend without me being there to surpervise because there were a bunch of little kids. He blames it all on me, if I hadn't told the counselor then he wouldn't have to have all these restrictions and have to talk to all these people. Witz - He is a bully to his little sister, and has been to me. He is bullied by kids his age and older. He used to enjoy playing with younger kids, and was great with them. He used to get along with his little sister very well. Now he says he hates her. His counselor has even told me she's concerned because he seems to feel real hate towards her. This has been within the last year. He hates her friends and verbally bullies them, but not as much as her. He's never left a mark or seriously hurt her, but we are still very concerned that he pushes her and hits her. We've been working on it with his counselor since January. He touched her inappropriately in June. It happened to be one day when they were getting along - because they were getting along and he seemed to be in a very calm mood, I let them go swimming together while I watched from the other side of the window. It was the only incident we know about, and I'm pretty confident it was the only time. He was hypersexual when he was younger, but hasn't been outwardly that way for probably around 5 years. I know it's a possibility there could have been more times, but I don't remember wavering from the fact that we only know about this one time. Since he does bully her we haven't let them be together unsupervised since last fall, so there wasn't much opportunity for anything to happen. We are requesting an evaluation from a sexual abuse program, but we're thinking it will help us keep him from being sent to a sexual offender Residential Treatment Center (RTC), and at the same time uncover any issues that are there so we can deal with it. I really don't think he's angry I put the brakes on anything, but I'm sure he is angry at me for telling the counselor, which in turn caused all these consequences, at least in his eyes. He tells me he knows he was wrong, but it's still my fault because I didn't have to tell. Nothing I say or the counselor says seems to change his mind about this. I think that's where his anger comes from. He really is being much more civil to his sister now. The odd thing is the coincidental timing between being nice to her and targeting me. I'd much prefer it to be me, but it still needs to be addressed. [/QUOTE]
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