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difficult child switching physical aggression target from easy child to me?
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<blockquote data-quote="OpenWindow" data-source="post: 190999" data-attributes="member: 45"><p>Terry - </p><p></p><p>I feel the same way. husband is trying at least to control his anger (and doing a pretty good job of it), but that's as far as he's going. I'm disappointed and confused at the same time.</p><p></p><p>Witzend - "that" refers to the big blow up husband had after I told the counselor what happened with the kids and that it was being reported to DHS. husband is in denial most of the time that anything is wrong with difficult child, and he thinks difficult child will grow out of it. husband has mentioned to me that something similar happened when he was younger in his family (don't know details because he won't tell me) and that his parents handled it in the family, and it never happened again. He has alway had a great mistrust of law enforcement and the government, and me "inviting" them into our lives like that made him very angry. He said I was going to ruin difficult child's life. He blew up at me verbally, and said some really mean and hateful things. He's done it before but this was the worst in years. I'd say it happens every 3 - 6 months, but he is known for his temper in everyday situations too - he gets mad very easily. He's not normally mean and hateful (and not to the kids at all), but easily aggravated. After my ultimatum, he has been very decent to me and them and the stress level in the house went way down.</p><p></p><p>It is a pattern with him though - big blow up then apology and then a month or so of good times, then his mood starts to change again. He is never physically abusive, and I've never been afraid of him in that regard. </p><p></p><p>I understand the red flags you see. I think his anger comes from his position of denial that his son could be that dysfunctional and be classified as a sex offender. </p><p></p><p>I'm working with a counselor on this and I'm hoping husband can continue to make more changes, and I'm not sure at all what the future holds.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="OpenWindow, post: 190999, member: 45"] Terry - I feel the same way. husband is trying at least to control his anger (and doing a pretty good job of it), but that's as far as he's going. I'm disappointed and confused at the same time. Witzend - "that" refers to the big blow up husband had after I told the counselor what happened with the kids and that it was being reported to DHS. husband is in denial most of the time that anything is wrong with difficult child, and he thinks difficult child will grow out of it. husband has mentioned to me that something similar happened when he was younger in his family (don't know details because he won't tell me) and that his parents handled it in the family, and it never happened again. He has alway had a great mistrust of law enforcement and the government, and me "inviting" them into our lives like that made him very angry. He said I was going to ruin difficult child's life. He blew up at me verbally, and said some really mean and hateful things. He's done it before but this was the worst in years. I'd say it happens every 3 - 6 months, but he is known for his temper in everyday situations too - he gets mad very easily. He's not normally mean and hateful (and not to the kids at all), but easily aggravated. After my ultimatum, he has been very decent to me and them and the stress level in the house went way down. It is a pattern with him though - big blow up then apology and then a month or so of good times, then his mood starts to change again. He is never physically abusive, and I've never been afraid of him in that regard. I understand the red flags you see. I think his anger comes from his position of denial that his son could be that dysfunctional and be classified as a sex offender. I'm working with a counselor on this and I'm hoping husband can continue to make more changes, and I'm not sure at all what the future holds. [/QUOTE]
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