I know almost every one of difficult child's friends have started smoking pot and drinking. Some a year or so ago. difficult child - HAS been very against it. Won't talk to the kids. Says they value a few hours of "high" over their life. But, Friday on the way home from school he and his friends were talking about a boys party Saturday. After the other boys had left I asked him if the parents would be home and if drugs and alcohol would be present. He said it was at his dads house and he didn't know if he would be home. Said YES, there would be drugs and alcohol. He said there are drugs and alcohol everywhere. He said everybody smokes pot (many take pills too). He said it is really tempting sometimes. I tried to praise him and tell him how proud I am that he is strong. Gave the proud of you speech. then he tells me how he doesn't have any friends. He talks to everyone at school. Seems to know everyone. They all wave and talk to him. But nobody ever calls. Because he does not party. I was so dreading Saturday rolling around. Not wanting him to go, but not wanting to punish him when he hasn't done anything. He decided he didn't want to go hang out with a bunch of "high drunken idiots". I KNOW the day is coming that he will be at a party. I KNOW so many of the kids do drugs. Almost every single one. Even the athletes. I find myself at a loss as to how to deal with this. Then he tells me he went to the bathroom at school one day last week and someone was getting high in there. Asked if he wanted a hit. he said no. As they walked out the school police officer walked in. difficult child got searched. Checked his eyes, made him move them around. (and he was afraid they would take his phone). Then searched the other. found the pot. difficult child got let go. I think a few others were involved too. I know he is a year younger than the kids in his grade. But how do I handle this?