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<blockquote data-quote="WSM" data-source="post: 272472" data-attributes="member: 5169"><p>A DV shelter is a good idea to ask for advice.</p><p> </p><p>I'm also going to take the list and the picture to our marital counselor (one of the ones who said it's not necessarily a big deal, children often have violent fantasies and this is a safe way of releasing it, blah, blah).</p><p> </p><p>It's not just the picture and the list, it's also what's written on the picture:</p><p> </p><p>It starts on the far left side of the page with dad hanging upside down, his arms flung out. There's an arrow pointing to him: "Dad not boss". Then there's me, with a scowling face and an arm raised like a shaking finger (I do scowl, I don't fingershake). An arrow identifies me by name. Then there's a drawing of daughter floating head level with husband's feet, my head, and the top of difficult child's neck. There's an arrow pointing to her with her name. Her face is scrunched up and she has a very dark scowl (ie, eyebrows drawn in a dark "V" over close set eyes). daughter almost NEVER gets angry. Upset, sad, worried, yes, but almost never angry.</p><p> </p><p>Next in the row is difficult child. He's as tall as me (without his head) and taller than upside down dad. difficult child has drawn himself without a head, at the top of his neck is a cloud of smoke/blood, and his head is falling off to the right. difficult child is standing squarely on two feet with his arms straight down, spread out slightly from his sides. In each fist he has a large jagged edged knife with the serrated edge facing up. His arms are thicker than his legs and go down to his knees. One is pointing at the scowling, floating daughter; this one has an arrow pointing to it with the word 'knife'. Right over the cloud and his neck is the word 'explosion' and an arrow pointing down to the black swirl of blood/smoke. </p><p> </p><p>His head is very small, and falling downward but still above his shoulders, it's not attached at all, and it's got an open face smile (altho it might be a scream). He is NOT scowling. Dad has a straight line for eyes (one line accross representing eyes and eyebrows), daughter and I have dots with scowling "V" eyebrows, but he has X X for eyes. Half of his neck is attached to the falling head and an arrow is pointing to it that says: "me dying from"</p><p>Then there's another arrow below that pointing to the head, and the words: "my head falloff".</p><p> </p><p>Next is another picture of a female wearing a dress. The dress is a combination of the dress I am wearing in my picture but has buttons like daughter is wearing i hers. The female is small like daughter but has my hair (daughter straight, mine curly). This figure is the only one without hands, the sleeves end. And the head is completely severed and abount an inch on the paper away from the body. The head and the body both have a part of the neck attached. The head has an "O" for a mouth and "XX" eyes. There's a pool of blood between the body and the head. </p><p> </p><p>Over her body is a series of statements with bullets. From top to bottom they read:</p><p> </p><p>"going to mommy's house"</p><p>"telling people no"</p><p>"being boss not kid"</p><p>"watching tv alone"</p><p>"playing with others not brothers" </p><p>"having friends not brothers" (the 'not brothers' part is one phrase shared on two lines.</p><p>"jumping on <sister's name>"</p><p>"her dead"</p><p> </p><p>With an arrow going from her dead to the head of the female lying on the ground.</p><p> </p><p>When my husband first saw it, he said, "That's scary". I assumed he meant he saw a threat to us and that's why it was scary. Now I'm not so sure. I wonder if he meant it was scary because difficult child's head was exploding and difficult child was in danger.</p><p> </p><p>It's hard to talk to him about the picture. Three professionals have dismissed it (with-o seeing it), so he thinks I'm over reacting when I bring it up.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WSM, post: 272472, member: 5169"] A DV shelter is a good idea to ask for advice. I'm also going to take the list and the picture to our marital counselor (one of the ones who said it's not necessarily a big deal, children often have violent fantasies and this is a safe way of releasing it, blah, blah). It's not just the picture and the list, it's also what's written on the picture: It starts on the far left side of the page with dad hanging upside down, his arms flung out. There's an arrow pointing to him: "Dad not boss". Then there's me, with a scowling face and an arm raised like a shaking finger (I do scowl, I don't fingershake). An arrow identifies me by name. Then there's a drawing of daughter floating head level with husband's feet, my head, and the top of difficult child's neck. There's an arrow pointing to her with her name. Her face is scrunched up and she has a very dark scowl (ie, eyebrows drawn in a dark "V" over close set eyes). daughter almost NEVER gets angry. Upset, sad, worried, yes, but almost never angry. Next in the row is difficult child. He's as tall as me (without his head) and taller than upside down dad. difficult child has drawn himself without a head, at the top of his neck is a cloud of smoke/blood, and his head is falling off to the right. difficult child is standing squarely on two feet with his arms straight down, spread out slightly from his sides. In each fist he has a large jagged edged knife with the serrated edge facing up. His arms are thicker than his legs and go down to his knees. One is pointing at the scowling, floating daughter; this one has an arrow pointing to it with the word 'knife'. Right over the cloud and his neck is the word 'explosion' and an arrow pointing down to the black swirl of blood/smoke. His head is very small, and falling downward but still above his shoulders, it's not attached at all, and it's got an open face smile (altho it might be a scream). He is NOT scowling. Dad has a straight line for eyes (one line accross representing eyes and eyebrows), daughter and I have dots with scowling "V" eyebrows, but he has X X for eyes. Half of his neck is attached to the falling head and an arrow is pointing to it that says: "me dying from" Then there's another arrow below that pointing to the head, and the words: "my head falloff". Next is another picture of a female wearing a dress. The dress is a combination of the dress I am wearing in my picture but has buttons like daughter is wearing i hers. The female is small like daughter but has my hair (daughter straight, mine curly). This figure is the only one without hands, the sleeves end. And the head is completely severed and abount an inch on the paper away from the body. The head and the body both have a part of the neck attached. The head has an "O" for a mouth and "XX" eyes. There's a pool of blood between the body and the head. Over her body is a series of statements with bullets. From top to bottom they read: "going to mommy's house" "telling people no" "being boss not kid" "watching tv alone" "playing with others not brothers" "having friends not brothers" (the 'not brothers' part is one phrase shared on two lines. "jumping on <sister's name>" "her dead" With an arrow going from her dead to the head of the female lying on the ground. When my husband first saw it, he said, "That's scary". I assumed he meant he saw a threat to us and that's why it was scary. Now I'm not so sure. I wonder if he meant it was scary because difficult child's head was exploding and difficult child was in danger. It's hard to talk to him about the picture. Three professionals have dismissed it (with-o seeing it), so he thinks I'm over reacting when I bring it up. [/QUOTE]
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