Well, on a good note, difficult child still is smoking any pot. He managed to get a loan for college, but not enough, and we're not paying the remainder. He only works a day or two a week because he sees his therapist and participates in a programme with his doctor, but he really hasn't been going much lately. He just had his 19th birthday, got some money from family, owes 700.00 for a phonebill and at least 700.00 he needs for college and guess what he's doing??? He's going to the mall with his girlfriend to spend it. The little paycheque he gets will go to his phonebill. I know that I should be focusing on the "baby steps' he's making, but to be honest, the disrespect is creeping back in. He contributes a bit to the household (cutting the lawn, cleaning the pool), but other than that he stays up late, is a slob, sleeps most of the day while we're working, and complains about his 1 or 2 shifts a week. His girlfriend is here for the weekend because of his b day. We took a bunch of them out to dinner last night, let him have a few drinks, and then last night they slept in his room. We do not approve of this, they know it, but figured because they sleep together at her house they can do it here. He says "i'm an adult" and i say, then start acting like one. The tension is building and I'm so sick of him being here (isn't that an awful thing to say). He's so immature for 19, you can't reason with him, he pouts and shouts when he doesn't like what he hears and I"m tired of worrying about his job, college, etc... I don't know what to do. I'm to the point of wanting him to leave, but I know that he has nowhere to go. He has made contact with one of his "old" buddies. I know that he and this boy were always close, and quite frankly we like this boy. WE do know that all he does is work and buy weed. Last night he came to the b day dinner (paid for his own) and that's the first they have been together in a long time. We were'n't happy that our difficult child invited him but our difficult child says to "trust him". He says he's not interested in going down that path again but doesn't want to lose this boy as a friend. I'm just tired. He walks all over me and I know it, but I can't seem to stop what is happening right now. He is supposed to work tonight, let's see... He claims he isn't feeling well and she's visiting. He better not pull any baloney and try to get out of his shift. They already tried to fire him once (that's a whole other story). Thanks for listening everyone...it feels good to write it all down.