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<blockquote data-quote="reallytrying" data-source="post: 168214" data-attributes="member: 5447"><p>This sounds soooo familiar! I too,have a 6yr old that does these things <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p>I have kept her home from several birthday parties and events due to her behavior, but it doesn't seem to help. Since she's ODD, if I tell her that "if you don't stop ____, you will stay home from the party" or even the more positive "if you want to go to the party, you will do___", she absolutely <em>has</em> to do what I don't want her to! </p><p></p><p>It's not just that I worry about her behavior at the party, it's also that I am too tired to go through the stress of monitoring her at the party--and there is no way I would let her go without me! So, when the tantrum arrives, I put her in her room and hold the door shut until she calms down. You just have to hang in there and and know that you are in control--even if it means not controlling her and just being in control of yourself <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>Sometimes when I try to remind my difficult child why she's missing out on something, she will say "blah,blah,blah" which really make me angry--but I have to remember that's what she's trying to do. I've gotten the notes as well (I don't love you...I'm feeling left out...I'm going away). How on earth does a 6 yr old know how to hurt her parent like that???</p><p></p><p>Lately, I've been using early bedtime and taking items away that "are causing the stress" and so far it's been the easiest to enforce. </p><p></p><p>Hugs and peace to you, I know it's hard.</p><p>It really helps to know that others endure similar issues-this is a great place to visit!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="reallytrying, post: 168214, member: 5447"] This sounds soooo familiar! I too,have a 6yr old that does these things :) I have kept her home from several birthday parties and events due to her behavior, but it doesn't seem to help. Since she's ODD, if I tell her that "if you don't stop ____, you will stay home from the party" or even the more positive "if you want to go to the party, you will do___", she absolutely [I]has[/I] to do what I don't want her to! It's not just that I worry about her behavior at the party, it's also that I am too tired to go through the stress of monitoring her at the party--and there is no way I would let her go without me! So, when the tantrum arrives, I put her in her room and hold the door shut until she calms down. You just have to hang in there and and know that you are in control--even if it means not controlling her and just being in control of yourself :) Sometimes when I try to remind my difficult child why she's missing out on something, she will say "blah,blah,blah" which really make me angry--but I have to remember that's what she's trying to do. I've gotten the notes as well (I don't love you...I'm feeling left out...I'm going away). How on earth does a 6 yr old know how to hurt her parent like that??? Lately, I've been using early bedtime and taking items away that "are causing the stress" and so far it's been the easiest to enforce. Hugs and peace to you, I know it's hard. It really helps to know that others endure similar issues-this is a great place to visit! [/QUOTE]
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