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difficult child turns 19 tomorrow!
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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 209819" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>Happy Birthday to your difficult child. </p><p>Our Aspie kids tend to follow strict rules of No Smoking, no drinking. </p><p>We did have our son order a drink of his choice when he turned 21. Why?</p><p>Because that's what his peers were doing. He hates the taste of alcohol and ordered some sweet drink because it came with a glass that lit up or something equally gadgety. (I want to clarify that alcoholism or even liking the taste of alcohol doesn't exist in either side of the genetic tree) I would be less open to alcohol if I had to live with an alcoholic. </p><p></p><p>The world of parenting an adult difficult child is a little daunting and a little different. I am much less involved in his day to day life. I don't watch what he reads or watches or what time he goes to bed. The only real rule is medication and hygiene. Everything else is his to do. I do help cue him in terms of accomplishing tasks of course. He is not independent but I don't want to take away his dignity as a man although he is emotionally like a 12 yr old maybe 15 yr old. Not sure. One child is very immature and the other is way too mature. </p><p></p><p>I,like mom to 3, do feel I need to micro manage their lives. I told easy child and difficult child. Follow the 10 commandments as your moral code, do what you know is right and get on with your life and your own consequences. difficult child still needs the security to help with his anxiety but I am not involved as I once was. </p><p></p><p>Time goes fast. I didn't think I would ever say that when difficult child was 11.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 209819, member: 3"] Happy Birthday to your difficult child. Our Aspie kids tend to follow strict rules of No Smoking, no drinking. We did have our son order a drink of his choice when he turned 21. Why? Because that's what his peers were doing. He hates the taste of alcohol and ordered some sweet drink because it came with a glass that lit up or something equally gadgety. (I want to clarify that alcoholism or even liking the taste of alcohol doesn't exist in either side of the genetic tree) I would be less open to alcohol if I had to live with an alcoholic. The world of parenting an adult difficult child is a little daunting and a little different. I am much less involved in his day to day life. I don't watch what he reads or watches or what time he goes to bed. The only real rule is medication and hygiene. Everything else is his to do. I do help cue him in terms of accomplishing tasks of course. He is not independent but I don't want to take away his dignity as a man although he is emotionally like a 12 yr old maybe 15 yr old. Not sure. One child is very immature and the other is way too mature. I,like mom to 3, do feel I need to micro manage their lives. I told easy child and difficult child. Follow the 10 commandments as your moral code, do what you know is right and get on with your life and your own consequences. difficult child still needs the security to help with his anxiety but I am not involved as I once was. Time goes fast. I didn't think I would ever say that when difficult child was 11. [/QUOTE]
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