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difficult child upped the ante ~ police and ambulance were here
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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 478191" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>Hugs, Kathy.</p><p></p><p>First off, there's not a chance you looked like a witch in anyone's eyes because you refused to allow your 26 y/o daughter to live at home. Nope. Not at all. </p><p></p><p>How did she get in the garage? Is it time to re-key all the locks?</p><p></p><p>I think the only way you regain control is to enforce the criminal trespass order each and every time she comes to your home. You will regain control of your life, anyway. </p><p></p><p>I think a healthy dose of anger at her manipulations might be in good order as well. This isn't the first time she's threatened to hurt herself, it's not the first time you've had EMTs/police at your home because of her antics. You are not responsible for the quality of her life - she is. Absolutely nothing about her current situation is because of your choices. She keeps trying to lay it at your feet - you need to give it right back to *her* to own. </p><p></p><p>You have the right to protect your own quality of life, and that includes not coming home to find your daughter in a running car in your garage. Really.... I'm just gobsmacked at that one. Takes a heck of a lot of nerve. It's really a shame they couldn't put her on a 72-hour hold. At least there would have been some kind of logical consequence. Unfortunately, seems like the authorities put it back in your court and the only thing you're left with- is the trespass order. </p><p></p><p>I just don't know. You have bent over backwards time and again, trying to get her on the right path. She makes half-hearted efforts, in my cynical opinion just enough to keep you enmeshed in her struggles, but she wants what she wants without being willing to honestly work towards it. </p><p></p><p>I guess the question really is, when will it stop? In my very little world here with- my own difficult child, it started to stop when I quit being an audience. My favorite phrase became "You're an adult, it's not my problem, and I don't need to know." It was a hard stance to adopt, but for us anyway, I think it was the right one.</p><p></p><p>My heart aches for you, truly. Turn the phone off, get some rest.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 478191, member: 8"] Hugs, Kathy. First off, there's not a chance you looked like a witch in anyone's eyes because you refused to allow your 26 y/o daughter to live at home. Nope. Not at all. How did she get in the garage? Is it time to re-key all the locks? I think the only way you regain control is to enforce the criminal trespass order each and every time she comes to your home. You will regain control of your life, anyway. I think a healthy dose of anger at her manipulations might be in good order as well. This isn't the first time she's threatened to hurt herself, it's not the first time you've had EMTs/police at your home because of her antics. You are not responsible for the quality of her life - she is. Absolutely nothing about her current situation is because of your choices. She keeps trying to lay it at your feet - you need to give it right back to *her* to own. You have the right to protect your own quality of life, and that includes not coming home to find your daughter in a running car in your garage. Really.... I'm just gobsmacked at that one. Takes a heck of a lot of nerve. It's really a shame they couldn't put her on a 72-hour hold. At least there would have been some kind of logical consequence. Unfortunately, seems like the authorities put it back in your court and the only thing you're left with- is the trespass order. I just don't know. You have bent over backwards time and again, trying to get her on the right path. She makes half-hearted efforts, in my cynical opinion just enough to keep you enmeshed in her struggles, but she wants what she wants without being willing to honestly work towards it. I guess the question really is, when will it stop? In my very little world here with- my own difficult child, it started to stop when I quit being an audience. My favorite phrase became "You're an adult, it's not my problem, and I don't need to know." It was a hard stance to adopt, but for us anyway, I think it was the right one. My heart aches for you, truly. Turn the phone off, get some rest. [/QUOTE]
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