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<blockquote data-quote="Signorina" data-source="post: 478195"><p>Ok - I am asking for it - and ... I don't think the Al Anon is a bad idea...and I am not harping on KLMNO...or speaking for Kathy...I am just stating how I feel</p><p></p><p>That said - there is no way in hell I could ever detach myself from my adult child trying to kill herself in my garage. Even if she was bluffing. Because you know what - I don't what my child to call my bluff. I AM A MOTHER. And while I think that Kathy's daughter may have been bluffing this time -- she may not be bluffing the next time. Isn't that how it happens?</p><p></p><p>My cyber friends, I don't know you. I really like you in the abstract and I certainly appreciate every single one of you. But I wouldn't know you if you showed up on my doorstep. But rest assured - If I saw any single one of you (ie: a stranger) about to be hit by a bus, I would push you out of the way. Even if I risked my own life doing so.</p><p></p><p>And I wouldn't want to live any other way.</p><p></p><p>But that's just me... I am a very flawed person, I am not tooting my own horn...but I couldn't live with myself if I didn't try to save someone. Even if I was being foolhardy.</p><p></p><p>So yes, I think we all need to grow some pretty thick skin in regards to our difficult children. And I we need to know how not to be manipulated and how to stop enabling drug use. But detachment wise - I always need to err on the side of being a mother first. And only we can draw that line for ourselves. I am sorry if people disagree. But I couldn't live with myself any other way... at least for now. Maybe I will feel differently someday, but I think I know deep in my heart that I will NEVER cut every thread that binds me to difficult child. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Kathy went to work today...she probably washed her hair and brushed her teeth, had a conversation over lunch, WENT TO WORK did her job pretty well, made a difference in the lives of some math students, maybe ran an errand or two. </p><p></p><p>I spend a lot of time on this board talking about my difficult child (because I am procrastinating at work lately) BUT that's not my life...it's just my life HERE. I am making a roast pork loin with sweet potatoes and pears as I type, I did 2 loads of laundry, made a lunch date for Friday, paid some bills, started making Christmas gift lists, wrapped a gift, corresponded with friends about plans for the weekend, ironed my new dress and talked to my mom. </p><p></p><p>And I know that difficult child's antics can't be my whole/rest of life and that's why I am here. Because I worry and I fret and I don't want it to consume me and I want to preserve what relationship we have while keeping my distance and I know you guys understand!! If I take it outside of this circle to my "real" life - I could be on my way to letting it take over. And I won't let that happen...Know what I mean??</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Signorina, post: 478195"] Ok - I am asking for it - and ... I don't think the Al Anon is a bad idea...and I am not harping on KLMNO...or speaking for Kathy...I am just stating how I feel That said - there is no way in hell I could ever detach myself from my adult child trying to kill herself in my garage. Even if she was bluffing. Because you know what - I don't what my child to call my bluff. I AM A MOTHER. And while I think that Kathy's daughter may have been bluffing this time -- she may not be bluffing the next time. Isn't that how it happens? My cyber friends, I don't know you. I really like you in the abstract and I certainly appreciate every single one of you. But I wouldn't know you if you showed up on my doorstep. But rest assured - If I saw any single one of you (ie: a stranger) about to be hit by a bus, I would push you out of the way. Even if I risked my own life doing so. And I wouldn't want to live any other way. But that's just me... I am a very flawed person, I am not tooting my own horn...but I couldn't live with myself if I didn't try to save someone. Even if I was being foolhardy. So yes, I think we all need to grow some pretty thick skin in regards to our difficult children. And I we need to know how not to be manipulated and how to stop enabling drug use. But detachment wise - I always need to err on the side of being a mother first. And only we can draw that line for ourselves. I am sorry if people disagree. But I couldn't live with myself any other way... at least for now. Maybe I will feel differently someday, but I think I know deep in my heart that I will NEVER cut every thread that binds me to difficult child. Kathy went to work today...she probably washed her hair and brushed her teeth, had a conversation over lunch, WENT TO WORK did her job pretty well, made a difference in the lives of some math students, maybe ran an errand or two. I spend a lot of time on this board talking about my difficult child (because I am procrastinating at work lately) BUT that's not my life...it's just my life HERE. I am making a roast pork loin with sweet potatoes and pears as I type, I did 2 loads of laundry, made a lunch date for Friday, paid some bills, started making Christmas gift lists, wrapped a gift, corresponded with friends about plans for the weekend, ironed my new dress and talked to my mom. And I know that difficult child's antics can't be my whole/rest of life and that's why I am here. Because I worry and I fret and I don't want it to consume me and I want to preserve what relationship we have while keeping my distance and I know you guys understand!! If I take it outside of this circle to my "real" life - I could be on my way to letting it take over. And I won't let that happen...Know what I mean?? [/QUOTE]
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