I am totally supportive of difficult child dropping out of college.. her first year she struggled with major depression in her 2nd semester and failed all of her classes (we found this out much later). She has depression, isn't sleeping much, some eating disorder issues, anxiety about school and a very poor self-image - possibly remnants of a few very rough years in middle school when she was hospitalized and psychological placements for being suicidal. She seemed to have recovered well and is off all medications, but obviously the stresses of college (she lives in a dorm a few hours from home) are just too much.
She wants to take next semester off - get in with a therapist... keep working her job.. and maybe take a course or two at the community college.
My concerns:
1) she doesn't want to move home but stay in her college town working her seasonal job - with no guaranteed hours (job will end in early spring).
2) she has no plan of where to live and how to pay for it
3) her father will very likely be VERY upset about this and threaten to cut off ALL support to her (currently paying for her health insurance, cell phone, and all college related expenses through college savings set aside for her).
4) I am paying for all of her car-related expenses (cost of car, insurance, registration, etc). - but what now?
This is uncharted territory for me.... if she was living at home and working and/or going to community college it would be easier to support her as a parent and financially help her. But if she wants to live AWAY from home, how best to support her as a parent without writing her a "blank check" to navigate through this uncertain phase?
She wants to take next semester off - get in with a therapist... keep working her job.. and maybe take a course or two at the community college.
My concerns:
1) she doesn't want to move home but stay in her college town working her seasonal job - with no guaranteed hours (job will end in early spring).
2) she has no plan of where to live and how to pay for it
3) her father will very likely be VERY upset about this and threaten to cut off ALL support to her (currently paying for her health insurance, cell phone, and all college related expenses through college savings set aside for her).
4) I am paying for all of her car-related expenses (cost of car, insurance, registration, etc). - but what now?
This is uncharted territory for me.... if she was living at home and working and/or going to community college it would be easier to support her as a parent and financially help her. But if she wants to live AWAY from home, how best to support her as a parent without writing her a "blank check" to navigate through this uncertain phase?