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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 257016" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>If it were me, I'd add that the first time he does drugs, he's out. You CAN insist he clean up in your house. He isn't going to do well in rehab if he is still snorting, smoking, doing whatever he's doing. He has to quit and you don't need rehab to quit--you sometimes need it to help you stay clean. I'd also insist on Narcotics Anonymous meetings, although it won't work if he's just going through the motions. Depends on where his heart is.</p><p> My daughter never went to rehab but when she was ready she quit. And I mean QUIT. And I never let her not work. Even when she was doing drugs, before she was thrown out, she had a job because she got no money from me as they always went to drugs and cigarettes. So she had no choice but to work. I think it was good for her. Now that she's clean, she has already established a strong work ethic and is an EXTREMELY hard worker who is also in college full time. The busier he is, perhaps the less he will use drugs.</p><p>I would NOT let him come home just to get high, watch TV, and make token appearances at rehab. He has to show serious signs that he wants to change his lifestyle and quit. When daughter decided to quit, she suddenly cut off her friends, wanted to move out of state with her brother to get away from everyone, and was willing to walk to work and work hard at her very strict brother's house in order to dump the drug crowd she'd been a part of since age 12 (yes, 12). Good luck!!!!! Wishing you the best.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 257016, member: 1550"] If it were me, I'd add that the first time he does drugs, he's out. You CAN insist he clean up in your house. He isn't going to do well in rehab if he is still snorting, smoking, doing whatever he's doing. He has to quit and you don't need rehab to quit--you sometimes need it to help you stay clean. I'd also insist on Narcotics Anonymous meetings, although it won't work if he's just going through the motions. Depends on where his heart is. My daughter never went to rehab but when she was ready she quit. And I mean QUIT. And I never let her not work. Even when she was doing drugs, before she was thrown out, she had a job because she got no money from me as they always went to drugs and cigarettes. So she had no choice but to work. I think it was good for her. Now that she's clean, she has already established a strong work ethic and is an EXTREMELY hard worker who is also in college full time. The busier he is, perhaps the less he will use drugs. I would NOT let him come home just to get high, watch TV, and make token appearances at rehab. He has to show serious signs that he wants to change his lifestyle and quit. When daughter decided to quit, she suddenly cut off her friends, wanted to move out of state with her brother to get away from everyone, and was willing to walk to work and work hard at her very strict brother's house in order to dump the drug crowd she'd been a part of since age 12 (yes, 12). Good luck!!!!! Wishing you the best. [/QUOTE]
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