My difficult child had his first court appearance today since he was arrested one month ago. He was formally indicted on three felony charges, two charges for theft and one for residential burglary. The only thing that they did today was indict him on the charges and then set a new court date for two weeks from today. They also assigned a judge to his case, and our attorney is very happy with the judge. Our attorney knows this judge from many other cases, so this will be good for our son. Unfortunately my h and I did not even get to see our son at court today. We both went to court at the time that our attorney said the case would be heard, but this attorney met us in front of the courthouse and told us they moved our son's case up one hour so it was already over. Our attorney met with difficult child, and he said that he is doing well and he looks much better than when he was first arrested (and he was high on drugs all the time). I have not even seen my son in one month, so I really wanted to at least be in the courtroom for him and see him today. But this is all a lesson for difficult child, that he has absolutely no control over his life right now, and there is not anything he can do about it. difficult child was moved to the residential drug unit in the jail, and he is in group therapy two times a day. He calls us often, and I know that he is safe in jail, and he is not in any danger from other inmates. He actually admitted to me on the phone last week that if he was not in jail right now he probably would be dead. He was taking up to 40 pills of triple C (cough and cold medicine that makes kids hallucinate) a day. I had no idea that he was taking so many pills, so at least he is getting some help now. I am still very sad that he is in jail, and he will probably be there for the next several months at least. Now that difficult child is not on drugs and he is clear headed he is actually talking to us on the phone, and it is good to be able to talk to him. I am trying to detach, because our difficult child made the choice to use drugs and now he has to pay the price for his crimes. I go from being very angry at difficult child, to sad, then back to angry, and frustrated and then back again. But I guess these emotions can be expected when we have a kid in jail. My h and I are going to FA meeting every week, and they are really helpful also. We are all part of the justice system now, and it will be several months before our difficult child is either given probation or he is sent to prison.