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<blockquote data-quote="Ronni" data-source="post: 87107" data-attributes="member: 850"><p>Thank you to everyone who responded. Just knowing that I'm not alone in this helps me somewhat. It seems at my job, I'm surrounded by all these parents with these wonderfully successful, athletic, bright kids who are on the honor roll and the star of their football, hockey, basketball, etc. teams. It's really hard not to feel like a total failure as a parent. </p><p> I am so angry at my son, and all this is affecting the mood of the entire household. I'm having a really hard time even trying to talk to him about this and am wondering how you get on with life in spite of this kind of upheaval. </p><p> I've heard of detaching with love, but wonder how to do it. I feel like if I act all loving and kind, he will think I'm condoning his not going to school. So for the most part, I don't say much of anything to him because when I open my mouth, I can't stop the sarcasms and lectures from coming out. I know that is doing nothing to improve his state of mind, not to mention the guilt I feel after I get done blasting him.</p><p> My husband isn't of much help because his communication skills are even worse than mine, so he deals with it by either yelling at our son, or takes on jobs outside the home to not have to deal with it at all. I'm a hairstylist, and why is it I can talk better and more intimately with my clients at work than I can with my own son and husband? (I don't expect anybody to answer that, just my wondering outloud). </p><p> Well, I'm off to read something positive and uplifting. I need to take care of me in all this. If I don't do something good for me, it's really easy for me to get on the pity pot and sink myself into a very deep dark place I don't want to be. Thanks again for all your support.</p><p>Ronni</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ronni, post: 87107, member: 850"] Thank you to everyone who responded. Just knowing that I'm not alone in this helps me somewhat. It seems at my job, I'm surrounded by all these parents with these wonderfully successful, athletic, bright kids who are on the honor roll and the star of their football, hockey, basketball, etc. teams. It's really hard not to feel like a total failure as a parent. I am so angry at my son, and all this is affecting the mood of the entire household. I'm having a really hard time even trying to talk to him about this and am wondering how you get on with life in spite of this kind of upheaval. I've heard of detaching with love, but wonder how to do it. I feel like if I act all loving and kind, he will think I'm condoning his not going to school. So for the most part, I don't say much of anything to him because when I open my mouth, I can't stop the sarcasms and lectures from coming out. I know that is doing nothing to improve his state of mind, not to mention the guilt I feel after I get done blasting him. My husband isn't of much help because his communication skills are even worse than mine, so he deals with it by either yelling at our son, or takes on jobs outside the home to not have to deal with it at all. I'm a hairstylist, and why is it I can talk better and more intimately with my clients at work than I can with my own son and husband? (I don't expect anybody to answer that, just my wondering outloud). Well, I'm off to read something positive and uplifting. I need to take care of me in all this. If I don't do something good for me, it's really easy for me to get on the pity pot and sink myself into a very deep dark place I don't want to be. Thanks again for all your support. Ronni [/QUOTE]
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