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<blockquote data-quote="flutterbee" data-source="post: 51707"><p>My difficult child is motivated by money. Too much. She seems to think she should get paid for doing anything. Because of that, I don't use that system. </p><p></p><p>For one thing, I don't agree with paying for doing chores. We are a family and as a family we are all responsible for our living environment. It's just the way it is (to me). Instead, I make it into a game by putting a list of chores into a bowl and we each draw from the bowl. We then set the timer for 5 minutes and work on our chore. When the timer goes off, we stop and draw again. It keeps anyone from doing the same chores all the time and the 5 minutes (sometimes we do 10 minutes) insures that noone is stuck doing something the hate the entire time we're cleaning.</p><p></p><p>Homework causes a lot of anxiety for difficult child. We have no homework written into the IEP for now. However, what worked best was not having a set time to do homework and creating an environment that was as stress free as possible, i.e., no interference, noise, etc. By not having a set time, difficult child wasn't watching the clock and having her anxiety build knowing that homework was impending. I waited until she seemed calm and in the frame of mind for it. Sometimes that was right after school. Other times, it was after dinner, just before bed, or in the morning before school.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterbee, post: 51707"] My difficult child is motivated by money. Too much. She seems to think she should get paid for doing anything. Because of that, I don't use that system. For one thing, I don't agree with paying for doing chores. We are a family and as a family we are all responsible for our living environment. It's just the way it is (to me). Instead, I make it into a game by putting a list of chores into a bowl and we each draw from the bowl. We then set the timer for 5 minutes and work on our chore. When the timer goes off, we stop and draw again. It keeps anyone from doing the same chores all the time and the 5 minutes (sometimes we do 10 minutes) insures that noone is stuck doing something the hate the entire time we're cleaning. Homework causes a lot of anxiety for difficult child. We have no homework written into the IEP for now. However, what worked best was not having a set time to do homework and creating an environment that was as stress free as possible, i.e., no interference, noise, etc. By not having a set time, difficult child wasn't watching the clock and having her anxiety build knowing that homework was impending. I waited until she seemed calm and in the frame of mind for it. Sometimes that was right after school. Other times, it was after dinner, just before bed, or in the morning before school. [/QUOTE]
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