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<blockquote data-quote="CrazyinVA" data-source="post: 400921" data-attributes="member: 1157"><p>No, she may not change. But she'll still suffer consequences. And you can change by giving her zero sympathy, zero care when she's sick, and suggesting that she find another way to ger herself to the doctor, since your efforts seem to be in vain. The other thing is to try your hardest not to get stuck in the "how can she do this? I would never do this!" thinking.. because the bottom line is, you're not her, and she's not going to react as you would. These are her lessons to learn, even if it takes her years to learn them. I've had a hard time with that myself... but when I'm spending more energy worrying about my child's problems than she is, I know it's time to back off and work on my detachment skills. As my therapist likes to say to me, "you're working harder than she is." </p><p></p><p>That doesn't meant it's easy ... <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CrazyinVA, post: 400921, member: 1157"] No, she may not change. But she'll still suffer consequences. And you can change by giving her zero sympathy, zero care when she's sick, and suggesting that she find another way to ger herself to the doctor, since your efforts seem to be in vain. The other thing is to try your hardest not to get stuck in the "how can she do this? I would never do this!" thinking.. because the bottom line is, you're not her, and she's not going to react as you would. These are her lessons to learn, even if it takes her years to learn them. I've had a hard time with that myself... but when I'm spending more energy worrying about my child's problems than she is, I know it's time to back off and work on my detachment skills. As my therapist likes to say to me, "you're working harder than she is." That doesn't meant it's easy ... :( [/QUOTE]
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