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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 234214" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>I am so sorry - anxiety is so difficult. As Fran stated, it is not fact based so it is hard to reason through. And in fact, as you attempt to reason, the anxiety will find something else in that reason to fear. </p><p> </p><p>The person with the anxiety has to be able to take the ownership of the anxiety, recognize it for what it is and mentally fight it. In other words, the person with the anxiety has to know that the situation causing the feelings is not real and force those negative feelings away. That is super hard - how can we dispute our feelings? Sometimes people need medications to keep the fears at bay - though you state you have also tried that route with minimal success.</p><p> </p><p>I have switched from addressing the fear itself with my difficult child to focusing on his feelings being anxiety based. My difficult child has been working on this for a little over a year and I believe he does understand for the most part about anxiety being a bully (though we are going through an anxiety based testing of this right now with his lack of sleep). I can tell him that it is anxiety and he will start his coping skills. It is hard though, because the anxiety will make you self doubt - "Are you sure I am just anxiety? What if I am for real this time? What if something is really wrong with you this time?"</p><p> </p><p>I wish I knew how to help, what to suggest. Is your difficult child ready to hear, "That is just anxiety talking trying bully you into being afraid."?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 234214, member: 5096"] I am so sorry - anxiety is so difficult. As Fran stated, it is not fact based so it is hard to reason through. And in fact, as you attempt to reason, the anxiety will find something else in that reason to fear. The person with the anxiety has to be able to take the ownership of the anxiety, recognize it for what it is and mentally fight it. In other words, the person with the anxiety has to know that the situation causing the feelings is not real and force those negative feelings away. That is super hard - how can we dispute our feelings? Sometimes people need medications to keep the fears at bay - though you state you have also tried that route with minimal success. I have switched from addressing the fear itself with my difficult child to focusing on his feelings being anxiety based. My difficult child has been working on this for a little over a year and I believe he does understand for the most part about anxiety being a bully (though we are going through an anxiety based testing of this right now with his lack of sleep). I can tell him that it is anxiety and he will start his coping skills. It is hard though, because the anxiety will make you self doubt - "Are you sure I am just anxiety? What if I am for real this time? What if something is really wrong with you this time?" I wish I knew how to help, what to suggest. Is your difficult child ready to hear, "That is just anxiety talking trying bully you into being afraid."? [/QUOTE]
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