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???difficult child's Aware They Have BiPolar???????
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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 159118" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>Just had a convo with thank you about whether or not he thinks he has a mental illness. It was enlightening.</p><p> </p><p>Nothing is wrong with him, aside from depression caused by his current lot in life, which is of course all my fault because I "won't let" him come home to live. Eight years in various placements outside of the home, 24+ hospitalizations, but nope... he's perfectly normal. His behaviors and choices are simply the result of him not doing anything until he's ready to and I'm the dummie for not understanding that. His self-injury and suicidal talk don't mean anything... I am just so *thick* (in the world according to thank you).</p><p> </p><p>When I pointed out that his thought processes are intefering with his ability to lead anything approaching a responsible life... again, it's *my* problem, not his.</p><p> </p><p>His borderline traits are really coming to the forefront right now. He called Thurs to inform me he wasn't coming home and we somehow ended up in a discussion about another Residential Treatment Center (RTC) placement (which he's told me he will be fighting tooth and nail). Typical circular thinking, he told me if I do move him that he won't work the program. Potential Residential Treatment Center (RTC) has serious reservations anyway about his lack of investment so I'm thinking why bother. So I told him, fine, no change in placement, it's time to buck up and get a life. Whereupon he told me I was lying, that I was going to change placement anyway, so he was just going to quit doing anything he's supposed to do *anywhere*, including eating. He told me to get the you-know-what out of his life. I'm just so exhausted from trying to deal with his grandiose self. He knows what he needs to do and will do it when he's good and ready and I can't do anything about it, yada yada yada. I finally just said fine. Call me when you want but otherwise, I'm out of it completely. It's on his shoulders now and the only person he can blame in the future is himself.</p><p> </p><p>Get a call on Sunday... "Are you going to change my placement?".... ARGH!!!</p><p> </p><p>But no, he has no mental health issues, is just as right as rain. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/Graemlins/1010hammer.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":hammer:" title="hammer :hammer:" data-shortname=":hammer:" /><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/Graemlins/1010hammer.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":hammer:" title="hammer :hammer:" data-shortname=":hammer:" /></p><p> </p><p>Wanted to add that I've had struggles, mainly with depression, since my teens. Didn't know what bipolar was until thank you was diagnosed, but yes sir-ee, the boy comes by it honestly. I don't know what the difference is between him and me - while I have certainly not always been the poster child for good mental health, somehow I've managed to mostly hold it together. Held good jobs when I was single. Made some impulsive choices but not to the detriment of anyone else. Sometimes I think it's because in my father's eyes, depression or any mental illness is a sign of personality flaw and weakness, so I fought mighty darn hard to at least appear on the surface like I had a clue. I don't know - but I think a lot (most?) people who are bipolar can and do function pretty decently.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 159118, member: 8"] Just had a convo with thank you about whether or not he thinks he has a mental illness. It was enlightening. Nothing is wrong with him, aside from depression caused by his current lot in life, which is of course all my fault because I "won't let" him come home to live. Eight years in various placements outside of the home, 24+ hospitalizations, but nope... he's perfectly normal. His behaviors and choices are simply the result of him not doing anything until he's ready to and I'm the dummie for not understanding that. His self-injury and suicidal talk don't mean anything... I am just so *thick* (in the world according to thank you). When I pointed out that his thought processes are intefering with his ability to lead anything approaching a responsible life... again, it's *my* problem, not his. His borderline traits are really coming to the forefront right now. He called Thurs to inform me he wasn't coming home and we somehow ended up in a discussion about another Residential Treatment Center (RTC) placement (which he's told me he will be fighting tooth and nail). Typical circular thinking, he told me if I do move him that he won't work the program. Potential Residential Treatment Center (RTC) has serious reservations anyway about his lack of investment so I'm thinking why bother. So I told him, fine, no change in placement, it's time to buck up and get a life. Whereupon he told me I was lying, that I was going to change placement anyway, so he was just going to quit doing anything he's supposed to do *anywhere*, including eating. He told me to get the you-know-what out of his life. I'm just so exhausted from trying to deal with his grandiose self. He knows what he needs to do and will do it when he's good and ready and I can't do anything about it, yada yada yada. I finally just said fine. Call me when you want but otherwise, I'm out of it completely. It's on his shoulders now and the only person he can blame in the future is himself. Get a call on Sunday... "Are you going to change my placement?".... ARGH!!! But no, he has no mental health issues, is just as right as rain. :hammer::hammer: Wanted to add that I've had struggles, mainly with depression, since my teens. Didn't know what bipolar was until thank you was diagnosed, but yes sir-ee, the boy comes by it honestly. I don't know what the difference is between him and me - while I have certainly not always been the poster child for good mental health, somehow I've managed to mostly hold it together. Held good jobs when I was single. Made some impulsive choices but not to the detriment of anyone else. Sometimes I think it's because in my father's eyes, depression or any mental illness is a sign of personality flaw and weakness, so I fought mighty darn hard to at least appear on the surface like I had a clue. I don't know - but I think a lot (most?) people who are bipolar can and do function pretty decently. [/QUOTE]
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