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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 472316" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Well that's good news- I hope he hasn't gotten a hold of stims and been taking them like he did before.</p><p></p><p>He didn't seem tired, just loopy and looked stoned, and was talking about all sorts of different 'happy' things, then almost cried and had to hide it when I commented on him appearing to be high. Then he seemed angry, then normal. I'm not just referring to things he was talking about, I'm talking about his speech, body language, look on his face, etc. I swear I have to wonder if these medications can cause mood lability- if that's the correct term. He's getting close to his release date, kind of, and it's still up in the air where he'll be going so I have no doubt his emotions and moods are all over the place- I doubt the psychiatrist is considering any of that when rx'ing medications for him or considering a diagnosis for him.</p><p></p><p>Of course this means he'll most likely come out with a diagnosis of BiPolar (BP) that I have little to no faith in- the psychiatrists in Department of Juvenile Justice are minimally involved and, well, less than ideal...but that means it will be a parole requirement for difficult child to see a psychiatrist, stay on medications, me get him on insurance and get him to all these appts, if he comes to live with me.</p><p></p><p>difficult child said the lady from the "re-entry" program came to see him last week for his interview so she can recommend what service, if any, they will give him. The PO has given me NO information about this program except to say they had a group home that wasn't run by Department of Juvenile Justice. It appears to me it is but never mind that. difficult child said she asked him his goals and then explained that they had a long term group home for boys who needed a group home until they are 18 and on their own, they have a short term group home for boys where the goal is reunificaTION WITH THE FAMILY, AND THEY HAVE SERVICES THEY CAN GIVE A (sorry- hit caps) kid who goes straight home- such as a mentor and help getting a job. been there done that. He said she asked which he'd prefer and he told her he wanted to come straight home but his mom wasn't sure she wanted him to. I can almost guess where this is leading- PO has scheduled an appointment to meet with me in 10 days.</p><p></p><p>Let's just say I need to keep buying time- I haven't gotten into detail before about what the attny I saw a mo or two ago told me just to be absolutely certain that no one in my family can ever find out what I was told, but I'm buying time here. </p><p></p><p>And why this hurt at one point and made me feel better at another I have no idea, but difficult child told me that he thought his whole problem had been that he quit respecting me as his mom years ago. I asked him why and he said he didn't know and it didn't matter. Ladies, I was not ever a mom who did drugs, didn't work or provide a decent home, cook his meals, or went out with boyfriend's or left my son with just anyone to go party. I swear I took him to scouts, swim lessons, soccer, did everything I could to be a good mom. Anyway, he continued talking and said he had blamed me for everything that ever went wrong in his life no matter what it was and used that as an excuse and said that "now he's going to force himself to respect me".</p><p></p><p>yeah, like that will work. </p><p></p><p>He'd say anything right now to try to get me to let him come and live with me the day he's released. I did talk to him about this decision not being about forgiveness or anything else- it's about maximizing his chances for success. And that he needed to understand that it was one thing for him to decide that he didn't care about his future or if he got locked up again, but it was another to turn against his mother and commit offenses against a family member and most boys he's incarcerated with probably have never even gone that far- and difficult child did it more than once.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Thanks for reading if you made it this far- I guess I needed to get some of this out.</p><p></p><p>Oh- the TH next to me is vacant, the one next to that is a couple with a 5yo difficult child. Go figure. The father yells at him and the mother says right in front of him what a "nightmare it is to try to take care of him". I don't know that I'm comfortable recommending this forum but was thinking about recommending "The Explosive Child". I did chat with her long enough to let her know that I understood and had a son that was difficult to raise, too.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 472316, member: 3699"] Well that's good news- I hope he hasn't gotten a hold of stims and been taking them like he did before. He didn't seem tired, just loopy and looked stoned, and was talking about all sorts of different 'happy' things, then almost cried and had to hide it when I commented on him appearing to be high. Then he seemed angry, then normal. I'm not just referring to things he was talking about, I'm talking about his speech, body language, look on his face, etc. I swear I have to wonder if these medications can cause mood lability- if that's the correct term. He's getting close to his release date, kind of, and it's still up in the air where he'll be going so I have no doubt his emotions and moods are all over the place- I doubt the psychiatrist is considering any of that when rx'ing medications for him or considering a diagnosis for him. Of course this means he'll most likely come out with a diagnosis of BiPolar (BP) that I have little to no faith in- the psychiatrists in Department of Juvenile Justice are minimally involved and, well, less than ideal...but that means it will be a parole requirement for difficult child to see a psychiatrist, stay on medications, me get him on insurance and get him to all these appts, if he comes to live with me. difficult child said the lady from the "re-entry" program came to see him last week for his interview so she can recommend what service, if any, they will give him. The PO has given me NO information about this program except to say they had a group home that wasn't run by Department of Juvenile Justice. It appears to me it is but never mind that. difficult child said she asked him his goals and then explained that they had a long term group home for boys who needed a group home until they are 18 and on their own, they have a short term group home for boys where the goal is reunificaTION WITH THE FAMILY, AND THEY HAVE SERVICES THEY CAN GIVE A (sorry- hit caps) kid who goes straight home- such as a mentor and help getting a job. been there done that. He said she asked which he'd prefer and he told her he wanted to come straight home but his mom wasn't sure she wanted him to. I can almost guess where this is leading- PO has scheduled an appointment to meet with me in 10 days. Let's just say I need to keep buying time- I haven't gotten into detail before about what the attny I saw a mo or two ago told me just to be absolutely certain that no one in my family can ever find out what I was told, but I'm buying time here. And why this hurt at one point and made me feel better at another I have no idea, but difficult child told me that he thought his whole problem had been that he quit respecting me as his mom years ago. I asked him why and he said he didn't know and it didn't matter. Ladies, I was not ever a mom who did drugs, didn't work or provide a decent home, cook his meals, or went out with boyfriend's or left my son with just anyone to go party. I swear I took him to scouts, swim lessons, soccer, did everything I could to be a good mom. Anyway, he continued talking and said he had blamed me for everything that ever went wrong in his life no matter what it was and used that as an excuse and said that "now he's going to force himself to respect me". yeah, like that will work. He'd say anything right now to try to get me to let him come and live with me the day he's released. I did talk to him about this decision not being about forgiveness or anything else- it's about maximizing his chances for success. And that he needed to understand that it was one thing for him to decide that he didn't care about his future or if he got locked up again, but it was another to turn against his mother and commit offenses against a family member and most boys he's incarcerated with probably have never even gone that far- and difficult child did it more than once. Thanks for reading if you made it this far- I guess I needed to get some of this out. Oh- the TH next to me is vacant, the one next to that is a couple with a 5yo difficult child. Go figure. The father yells at him and the mother says right in front of him what a "nightmare it is to try to take care of him". I don't know that I'm comfortable recommending this forum but was thinking about recommending "The Explosive Child". I did chat with her long enough to let her know that I understood and had a son that was difficult to raise, too. [/QUOTE]
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