My daughters father has been dealing with throat cancer for two years. He hasn't been much of a father, but I hate to see him in so much pain. It's awful. He found out 6 months ago that the cancer is back. He has another tumor. He would not quit smoking and having a beer. He used to chew tobacco. He's smoked since he was like 13 and he's 46 now. It's so sad regardless of how or why. difficult child is putting up a brave face but I know she's upset about it. He is getting ready to go into surgery in a few hours. He showed up in the ER two weeks ago with pneumonia, and they said he nearly died, and today they have to go in to do something with his trach. I am scared his family from Kentucky have all been called to be here. They haven't done that before. difficult child says she wants to see him, but she is never invited or told when he's in the hospital. She just happens upon information when she calls him or his girlfriend. I don't really know if she can handle seeing what has happened to him. I have to admit that I was shocked and it was terrible for me to see him that way. I don't know what to do. If she wants to see him and she can I will let her, because I don't want to be in the way of her saying goodbye. It's terrible to see someone go from being so healthy to where he is now. Please just pray or do whatever you do, he can use all the help he can get. Thank you.