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<blockquote data-quote="JJJ" data-source="post: 325659" data-attributes="member: 1169"><p>Legally, the child has zero say. Children live where their parents tell them to and when the parents don't agree, they live where the judge tells them to live. </p><p></p><p>From what was posted, the judge told the child to live at her mother's. During the initial custody battle "best interest of the child" should have been used to rule. The assumption at this point is that mom's place is in the best interest of the child. Dad would need to show a significant change in circumstance in the child's life. If Dad feels that the child is being physically abused, he need to call CPS. If this child is being abused, dad will need proof for court. If the child does not already have a GAL, I would hope that Dad (or Mom) would ask that one be assigned. </p><p></p><p>The problem with letting a 9 year old child think she has any choice in where she lives is that it puts adult pressure on her to pick one parent or the other. No child should ever be made to choose between their parents. It is highly inappropriate. Parents need to love their children more than they hate their ex. All a child should be told is that both parents love her. (And OP stated that "we" filed for custody. I'm giving her the benefit of the doubt that she meant dad filed for custody as OP is a legal stranger to her.)</p><p></p><p>Mavh - As I said I don't mean to be harsh, my tone of voice is sympathetic.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JJJ, post: 325659, member: 1169"] Legally, the child has zero say. Children live where their parents tell them to and when the parents don't agree, they live where the judge tells them to live. From what was posted, the judge told the child to live at her mother's. During the initial custody battle "best interest of the child" should have been used to rule. The assumption at this point is that mom's place is in the best interest of the child. Dad would need to show a significant change in circumstance in the child's life. If Dad feels that the child is being physically abused, he need to call CPS. If this child is being abused, dad will need proof for court. If the child does not already have a GAL, I would hope that Dad (or Mom) would ask that one be assigned. The problem with letting a 9 year old child think she has any choice in where she lives is that it puts adult pressure on her to pick one parent or the other. No child should ever be made to choose between their parents. It is highly inappropriate. Parents need to love their children more than they hate their ex. All a child should be told is that both parents love her. (And OP stated that "we" filed for custody. I'm giving her the benefit of the doubt that she meant dad filed for custody as OP is a legal stranger to her.) Mavh - As I said I don't mean to be harsh, my tone of voice is sympathetic. [/QUOTE]
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