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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 297542" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>That would be different but the PO told me that they contract out to a company to do the mentoring and I checked the company's web site. Both the PO and the website indicated there is a flat fee for so many visits to the kid (the mentor is really a "monitor") and there is NO transportation included. The PO told me he might be able to get the mentor to do an occassional transport, but really, the mentor is not going to pick difficult child up every morning and drop him off every evening and work it around mine and difficult child's work schedule. They don't do that kiind of stuff here. And they want me monitoring difficult child constantly- remember his age- we aren't talking about a 17yo. difficult child is 14 now and turns 15 in Jan. and will probably get released in Feb for good behavior.</p><p></p><p>Actually, difficult child has one option here- he can choose to do another 6 mos in the state facility and then he's done, instead of coming home on parole. But, I'm not sure I could talk him into this or that it would be in his best interest. I honestly think difficult child needs to get 3 points- 1) After what he did, he'll come home when I say he can come home, and 2) I make the rules in my house and if he's living here, he has to live by them no matter what anyone else tells him as long as I'm not abusing or neglecting him- if he's in trouble legally then he has to meet the more stringent of the two, and 3) he needs to figure out that the life he had at home is not as bad as he thought it was- if he lives somewhere else that's "mainstream" and he's "monitored" just as much, he'll get the clue pretty quick, I think.</p><p></p><p>And the PO needs to get 3 points- 1) I'm not lieing to these people- it will take more than pills and behavior mod to help my son but I'm not "covering" for him, (they should take note how many times I've called the cops on difficult child-including this last time) and 2) we'd be a lot further along if they'd learn to back a parent up instead of treating the parent like the delinquent in front of the child, and 3) I can't accommodate all their "community supports" which I really don't think they have a clue about what a real support system is- so what do they think is in difficult child's best interest- a group home where they won't make difficult child do half of this and the PO said would make difficult child worse, or a mom who can do half but not all</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 297542, member: 3699"] That would be different but the PO told me that they contract out to a company to do the mentoring and I checked the company's web site. Both the PO and the website indicated there is a flat fee for so many visits to the kid (the mentor is really a "monitor") and there is NO transportation included. The PO told me he might be able to get the mentor to do an occassional transport, but really, the mentor is not going to pick difficult child up every morning and drop him off every evening and work it around mine and difficult child's work schedule. They don't do that kiind of stuff here. And they want me monitoring difficult child constantly- remember his age- we aren't talking about a 17yo. difficult child is 14 now and turns 15 in Jan. and will probably get released in Feb for good behavior. Actually, difficult child has one option here- he can choose to do another 6 mos in the state facility and then he's done, instead of coming home on parole. But, I'm not sure I could talk him into this or that it would be in his best interest. I honestly think difficult child needs to get 3 points- 1) After what he did, he'll come home when I say he can come home, and 2) I make the rules in my house and if he's living here, he has to live by them no matter what anyone else tells him as long as I'm not abusing or neglecting him- if he's in trouble legally then he has to meet the more stringent of the two, and 3) he needs to figure out that the life he had at home is not as bad as he thought it was- if he lives somewhere else that's "mainstream" and he's "monitored" just as much, he'll get the clue pretty quick, I think. And the PO needs to get 3 points- 1) I'm not lieing to these people- it will take more than pills and behavior mod to help my son but I'm not "covering" for him, (they should take note how many times I've called the cops on difficult child-including this last time) and 2) we'd be a lot further along if they'd learn to back a parent up instead of treating the parent like the delinquent in front of the child, and 3) I can't accommodate all their "community supports" which I really don't think they have a clue about what a real support system is- so what do they think is in difficult child's best interest- a group home where they won't make difficult child do half of this and the PO said would make difficult child worse, or a mom who can do half but not all [/QUOTE]
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