I met privately with-the principal and resource dir this a.m. We had a group mtng Wed. and I had asked for this in addition. I was prepared to tell them they don't know what they're doing with-Aspies, but b4 I could say anything, the principal said that they have several Aspies and their behavior is not as social as difficult child's, so he has that going for him. She thinks difficult child has serious issues with-anger and anxiety and it's easier for him to let others fail him for not even trying than to risk something and fail. She said the anxiety seems to be too much for him. But they said they really think he can make it, and that we should stick with-the contract, and just keep on him. I said I was thinking about sending difficult child to public school with-an IEP and the resource dir pulled out the testing we'd already had done, and said he would need a huge battery of tests to qualify for it, and if they wouldn't or couldn't do the testing, they would fall back on the paperwork she had, which just had basic interventions, and he might not even qualify for any interventions. I said, "That's scary," and she agreed. I also said I did not like the idea of throwing difficult child into the public school system because I like the structure, routine, and size of this school and they agreed. So they basically reassured me that difficult child is going to be okay there. I was pretty surprised. They reassured me that it was more than academics--it was behavior and attitude and the whole person, and he would do fine. husband will be very happy. Lots more but I can't think striaght right now.