I know so many of you have kids that are fine at school, but not so at home. Anyone have the opposite? With difficult child it seems as if school is a torture. He is fine when he is outside of school at functions such as baseball, or even school functions like the socials (dances). Not much problem at home anymore, all school. We had it out again last night. I went to school for a meeting about a French trip. Since I was there I went to his locker. OMG...papers all crumpled up, thrown about in the locker. His backpack was also there. So, I took everything out of his locker except the spiral notebooks and folders that were nicely at the bottom..because he has never used them! Now I know why he went to class with no books on Monday and Tuesday. He is missing three books. I dropped him of early Tuesday morning and he had one of the books in his backpack. He went for extra help an hour early. Only to find out nobody else showed up..not even the TEACHER!!! I uncrumpled every paper and asked what it was. Some were assignments that he "forgot" to turn in. Some he didn't know what they were because he didn't put a page number on it. Some were several copies of the same handout..which he said he did, he got another copy. So he tells the teacher he cant FIND it over and over again. I put all of the work to be turned in, and other work he needed to keep in ONE folder. I instructed him he is to take his binder and this folder to every single class. Take homework out, put papers in. I just losted. Where is his head at??? Where are his books that are missing? He just says, "I don't know". Now, he didn't take the math test on Tuesday, he made arrangements to stay after on Wednesday to do it with the spec. ed. teacher so he could get help showing his work. I asked him when he does it in his head..can't he just write down how he does it. He replied the teacher will not accept that way. Has to be a specific way. OK..now I am angry. He is NOT like other kids. He has a different thought process. If he shows the work the way HE does it why can't that be accepted? He used his "cool-off" pass yesterday in Social Studies. He was getting upset because she insisted he re-take the test from Friday (he lost it). found it on Monday, but teacher will not accept it. He was not in the class when he finished the test. He did the essay part on the computer in the Library. Anyway, he told the teacher he was going to find one of the specified teachers he was to see when he gets frustrated or angry. He couldn't find them so he went to the office to see where he could find them. By the time he got to the office the teacher had called down and said he "walked out of class". Now EACH teacher has a copy of his cool off pass. They are all aware. Luckily the program directer happened to be IN the office when this call came in. Things were straightened out. How can he lose his books, library book, two class books. How can he "forget" to turn in his work? What is wrong with him!!!! He doesn't forget how to play computer games or talk on the phone. I just lost it with him, even husband piped up. I told him he better take the correct information to EVERY SINGLE class and he better keep his mouth shut. Now the French trip is expensive, but I was told from the program director she can get sponsers to help pay. But...No out of school suspension all year. (did not have that last year). No in school suspension or will be placed on a behavior contract and it will be up to the administrators if he can go. No talking disrespectful to any staff member. That has already happened. The trip is in MAY. No refunds after a certain date. Lots of fundraisers that he wants to work on. Just hate to invest the time and money if he cannot do it. He IS good outside of the classroom setting. don't know what to do. Should we shoot for this goal and work hard..or just forget it? difficult child also states that others talk to him, but he gets removed and nothing happens to others. That is what really gets him angry and then he says things he shouldn't. I just want to slap him upside the head. Do they every get it??? Do teachers ever give them a chance when the TRY to be good? I was just so angry taking over an hour to go through all those crumpled up papers, missing books...after screaming at him for an hour I just locked myself in the bedroom and went to sleep. Warned him this morning he had better not open his mouth inapproprately today. Not even ONE single time. I have an MRI scheduled shortly and he had better not act up. I will not go get him.