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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 228318" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>Has his anxiety been addressed lately? My difficult child totally fell apart last fall before we figured out it was anxiety. Just like your son, every little pain he thought he was dying. Chest pains, feeling weird, didn't feel he was getting enough air, seeing spots, lightheadedness, no energy to go anywhere (even to buy a lego set!) the list was truly endless. Seemed like every part of his body was effected. I was so scared - hoping that something would show up on a test. Not wanting something serious such as a tumor or cancer or whatever but at the point that I didn't care what it was, I just wanted an answer.</p><p></p><p>The SW at the psychiatric hospital told me he was throwing up for attention. I told her that he is looking for help - his body is falling apart and no one is helping. Nothing is showing on the test - x-rays, EEG, blood tests, ect. ect. ect.</p><p></p><p>Once difficult child was diagnosed with anxiety, he was taught coping skills and put on medications. It took six months and lots of determination on his part to climb out of that deep deep hole. He experienced anger, nightmares, feeling so evil, self harm thoughts, thoughts of harming/killing me and others.</p><p></p><p>Anxiety is a huge bully. It can scare you into thinking that even the smallest of minor injuries will cause you death. It will get you to worry about your future and for a kid to wonder how they will make it in the world is super scary because they don't have those skills yet.</p><p></p><p>Continue to do the medical tests needed to rule out EVERYTHING it may be. I would even redo the major tests if it has been a few years - new eyes may see new things? Maybe something was started that needed time to develop to see? </p><p></p><p>At the same time, focus on the anxiety. Give him tools to work on when he is not feeling well. He needs to see a specialist to determine what is best for him. The first step might be to redirect his thoughts. Have him think of a very fun event - in his mind hear the noises of the event, taste the foods, feel the fun, smell the scents. Focus on that until the bad feelings go away. He can then write about how he feels. The breathing exercises are a biggy. My difficult child is using them now when he feels an anxiety twinge coming up. But let a professional decide about this - don't take my word for it.</p><p></p><p>My heart goes out to him. I so hope you can find an answer and soon. I know you have been struggling with this for so long. Like my son, your son's anxiety may be rising because he doesn't feel he is getting help. It is scary not knowing what is happening and that fear makes things worse.</p><p></p><p>My difficult child has been diagnosed with migranes but hasn't had a major headache since last February. I am continuing with the neurology appts for awhile but am thinking it was part of his anxiety?</p><p></p><p>However, if I remember, your difficult child's migranes have been major and long lasting so I would never say his are not migranes. I do believe your difficult child does have migranes. The hard part, are migranes worse because of something else going on or is his body falling apart because of the migranes?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 228318, member: 5096"] Has his anxiety been addressed lately? My difficult child totally fell apart last fall before we figured out it was anxiety. Just like your son, every little pain he thought he was dying. Chest pains, feeling weird, didn't feel he was getting enough air, seeing spots, lightheadedness, no energy to go anywhere (even to buy a lego set!) the list was truly endless. Seemed like every part of his body was effected. I was so scared - hoping that something would show up on a test. Not wanting something serious such as a tumor or cancer or whatever but at the point that I didn't care what it was, I just wanted an answer. The SW at the psychiatric hospital told me he was throwing up for attention. I told her that he is looking for help - his body is falling apart and no one is helping. Nothing is showing on the test - x-rays, EEG, blood tests, ect. ect. ect. Once difficult child was diagnosed with anxiety, he was taught coping skills and put on medications. It took six months and lots of determination on his part to climb out of that deep deep hole. He experienced anger, nightmares, feeling so evil, self harm thoughts, thoughts of harming/killing me and others. Anxiety is a huge bully. It can scare you into thinking that even the smallest of minor injuries will cause you death. It will get you to worry about your future and for a kid to wonder how they will make it in the world is super scary because they don't have those skills yet. Continue to do the medical tests needed to rule out EVERYTHING it may be. I would even redo the major tests if it has been a few years - new eyes may see new things? Maybe something was started that needed time to develop to see? At the same time, focus on the anxiety. Give him tools to work on when he is not feeling well. He needs to see a specialist to determine what is best for him. The first step might be to redirect his thoughts. Have him think of a very fun event - in his mind hear the noises of the event, taste the foods, feel the fun, smell the scents. Focus on that until the bad feelings go away. He can then write about how he feels. The breathing exercises are a biggy. My difficult child is using them now when he feels an anxiety twinge coming up. But let a professional decide about this - don't take my word for it. My heart goes out to him. I so hope you can find an answer and soon. I know you have been struggling with this for so long. Like my son, your son's anxiety may be rising because he doesn't feel he is getting help. It is scary not knowing what is happening and that fear makes things worse. My difficult child has been diagnosed with migranes but hasn't had a major headache since last February. I am continuing with the neurology appts for awhile but am thinking it was part of his anxiety? However, if I remember, your difficult child's migranes have been major and long lasting so I would never say his are not migranes. I do believe your difficult child does have migranes. The hard part, are migranes worse because of something else going on or is his body falling apart because of the migranes? [/QUOTE]
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