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<blockquote data-quote="tessaturtle" data-source="post: 493464" data-attributes="member: 3510"><p>All good questions, I'll try to answer:</p><p>Yes, husband/SO is difficult child's biological father and there are no apparent mental health issues on his side of the family. Bio-mom's is a different story, she exhibits many symptoms of bipolar but will not admit she has it, her sister and one brother has it, her grandmother and her uncle have it, and her own bio-mom abandoned her at the age of 5 or 6. From birth to about 3 they (husband,biomom, and difficult child) husband worked out at sea during the day and when he came home at night, he took care of difficult child while biomom went to bartend and typically would not come home until 2-3 in the morning. Close friends at that time (worked with husband) and who remain our close friends told me that biomom did not pay much attention to difficult child and he would resort to climbing up doors and such to get attention. At age 3-4 husband was away with the merchant marines, they were back in the states. At age 4, his younger sister, daughter, was born, husband came home due to significant medical complications with daughter. She had a trach tube until she turned about 3 - difficult child's therapists have stated that he developed intense jealousy of her at that time and has never gotten over it (he has stated and admitted that he hates her to this day - not in the normal sibling love/hate relationship). Bio-mom has had a history of 'pawning' off the kids to various relatives and friends to watch them during her time with them- she also has a very unstable housing history and employment history - thus the reason we took them in full-time 5 years ago.</p><p></p><p>daughter is extremely resilient and has perfect grades and is very helpful, active, etc. We recognize that she probably expects herself to be too perfect to compensate for watching us deal with her brother, but we make sure she has plenty of extra curricular activities available and opportunities to get away. Her teachers have said she is "gifted" and they provide extra academic work to keep her interested and at her level. She has quirks, almost like an aspie and doesn't get jokes/sarcasm, but it works for her <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>difficult child goes to a specialized day school - and he had IEP's since he was school age. He does have learning disabilities along with his emotional handicap. He says he has friends, but in reality he only has one kid who hangs out with him. He also just recently stopped wetting the bed (once the guanfacine/tenex and buspar were discontinued, his bedwetting stopped). We do recogznize that he is extremely vulnerable to bad influences and also predators as he has no friends and he has had no problem in the past with asking strangers for car rides and going into strangers homes to use the phone.</p><p></p><p>sorry this response was so long! There were some great questions though! Oh and as far as working things off, we have tried that in the past and difficult child just will not lift a finger!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="tessaturtle, post: 493464, member: 3510"] All good questions, I'll try to answer: Yes, husband/SO is difficult child's biological father and there are no apparent mental health issues on his side of the family. Bio-mom's is a different story, she exhibits many symptoms of bipolar but will not admit she has it, her sister and one brother has it, her grandmother and her uncle have it, and her own bio-mom abandoned her at the age of 5 or 6. From birth to about 3 they (husband,biomom, and difficult child) husband worked out at sea during the day and when he came home at night, he took care of difficult child while biomom went to bartend and typically would not come home until 2-3 in the morning. Close friends at that time (worked with husband) and who remain our close friends told me that biomom did not pay much attention to difficult child and he would resort to climbing up doors and such to get attention. At age 3-4 husband was away with the merchant marines, they were back in the states. At age 4, his younger sister, daughter, was born, husband came home due to significant medical complications with daughter. She had a trach tube until she turned about 3 - difficult child's therapists have stated that he developed intense jealousy of her at that time and has never gotten over it (he has stated and admitted that he hates her to this day - not in the normal sibling love/hate relationship). Bio-mom has had a history of 'pawning' off the kids to various relatives and friends to watch them during her time with them- she also has a very unstable housing history and employment history - thus the reason we took them in full-time 5 years ago. daughter is extremely resilient and has perfect grades and is very helpful, active, etc. We recognize that she probably expects herself to be too perfect to compensate for watching us deal with her brother, but we make sure she has plenty of extra curricular activities available and opportunities to get away. Her teachers have said she is "gifted" and they provide extra academic work to keep her interested and at her level. She has quirks, almost like an aspie and doesn't get jokes/sarcasm, but it works for her :) difficult child goes to a specialized day school - and he had IEP's since he was school age. He does have learning disabilities along with his emotional handicap. He says he has friends, but in reality he only has one kid who hangs out with him. He also just recently stopped wetting the bed (once the guanfacine/tenex and buspar were discontinued, his bedwetting stopped). We do recogznize that he is extremely vulnerable to bad influences and also predators as he has no friends and he has had no problem in the past with asking strangers for car rides and going into strangers homes to use the phone. sorry this response was so long! There were some great questions though! Oh and as far as working things off, we have tried that in the past and difficult child just will not lift a finger! [/QUOTE]
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