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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 172261" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>This has been a problem here, too. When difficult child bolts, it is usually bad news. I have started using TEC techniques to try to prevent the incidences, and I think it has helped (less occurrences). Also, I tell difficult child he has a 15 min. "grace" period or cooling off period- which means if he storms out of the house and is back within 15 mins., then no punishment or fussing over it.</p><p></p><p>But, given the outrageous things my difficult child has done in the past (risk to self and possible risk to others- more risk to self though), it is a major concern to me. One of the first counselors said to call the cops every single time. This turned out not to be a good answer. It didn't solve the problem, left difficult child in more legal trouble, and therefore made him feel worse and more desparate- I wouldn't recommend it unless you reach that point where you do think it is necessary. </p><p></p><p>Looking for him helps a lot sometimes, others, it doesn't. But, if I can track him down quickly and tell him to come home to work it out a better way, that seems to be good. It reassures him in a way, lets him know he isn't getting by with just leaving for an undetermined amount of time, and it gets him back where I know he's safe and we really can find a different way.</p><p></p><p>I don't think there is an easy answer to this one- sorry I couldn't be of more help. Maybe we should have a thread just for ideas and experiences of this.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 172261, member: 3699"] This has been a problem here, too. When difficult child bolts, it is usually bad news. I have started using TEC techniques to try to prevent the incidences, and I think it has helped (less occurrences). Also, I tell difficult child he has a 15 min. "grace" period or cooling off period- which means if he storms out of the house and is back within 15 mins., then no punishment or fussing over it. But, given the outrageous things my difficult child has done in the past (risk to self and possible risk to others- more risk to self though), it is a major concern to me. One of the first counselors said to call the cops every single time. This turned out not to be a good answer. It didn't solve the problem, left difficult child in more legal trouble, and therefore made him feel worse and more desparate- I wouldn't recommend it unless you reach that point where you do think it is necessary. Looking for him helps a lot sometimes, others, it doesn't. But, if I can track him down quickly and tell him to come home to work it out a better way, that seems to be good. It reassures him in a way, lets him know he isn't getting by with just leaving for an undetermined amount of time, and it gets him back where I know he's safe and we really can find a different way. I don't think there is an easy answer to this one- sorry I couldn't be of more help. Maybe we should have a thread just for ideas and experiences of this. [/QUOTE]
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