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<blockquote data-quote="Josie" data-source="post: 287809" data-attributes="member: 1792"><p>difficult child 1 hasn't been in regular therapy for a couple of years, since she was 11. At that time, I went in regularly either before her session or in my own session to tell the therapist what was going on. </p><p> </p><p>If I were to send difficult child 1 to the therapist again, I would want to go in and tell the therapist what I thought they should be working on (anger management, in her case). I think what would happen is that I would go in and tell the therapist that but they wouldn't really stay focused on that as much as I would like. I did take difficult child there once last spring, thinking they could talk about difficult child 2 and the affect it had on her but I got the feeling they didn't really talk about that. Apparently, difficult child doesn't feel it affects her too much or she had a more important social issue at the time.</p><p> </p><p>All that is my way of saying, I don't really think we can control too much what they talk about in their therapy. Hopefully, your difficult child's therapist is able to see that difficult child only talks about the negative and causes a lot of unhappiness for herself and will eventually get around to talking with her about that. I would hope she is taking note of the fact that you do already say "good morning" and "I love you" and that difficult child is the one that needs to work on her communcation skills. Maybe she is talking to difficult child about that after you leave or in the next session. </p><p> </p><p>Short of ongoing abuse, even people that really are "poor and wounded" have to get past it and make their own happiness. Surely that would be a basic premise for a therapist?</p><p> </p><p>I do think some one on one time for you with the therapist would help you figure out what is really happening.</p><p> </p><p>You, but probably not difficult child, might be happier with CBT therapy. My difficult child 2 is doing that and it is very focused on specific issues and how to handle them. I have seen more results from that than all the years of talk therapy with difficult child 1.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Josie, post: 287809, member: 1792"] difficult child 1 hasn't been in regular therapy for a couple of years, since she was 11. At that time, I went in regularly either before her session or in my own session to tell the therapist what was going on. If I were to send difficult child 1 to the therapist again, I would want to go in and tell the therapist what I thought they should be working on (anger management, in her case). I think what would happen is that I would go in and tell the therapist that but they wouldn't really stay focused on that as much as I would like. I did take difficult child there once last spring, thinking they could talk about difficult child 2 and the affect it had on her but I got the feeling they didn't really talk about that. Apparently, difficult child doesn't feel it affects her too much or she had a more important social issue at the time. All that is my way of saying, I don't really think we can control too much what they talk about in their therapy. Hopefully, your difficult child's therapist is able to see that difficult child only talks about the negative and causes a lot of unhappiness for herself and will eventually get around to talking with her about that. I would hope she is taking note of the fact that you do already say "good morning" and "I love you" and that difficult child is the one that needs to work on her communcation skills. Maybe she is talking to difficult child about that after you leave or in the next session. Short of ongoing abuse, even people that really are "poor and wounded" have to get past it and make their own happiness. Surely that would be a basic premise for a therapist? I do think some one on one time for you with the therapist would help you figure out what is really happening. You, but probably not difficult child, might be happier with CBT therapy. My difficult child 2 is doing that and it is very focused on specific issues and how to handle them. I have seen more results from that than all the years of talk therapy with difficult child 1. [/QUOTE]
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