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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 222699" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I know the only thing that kept my bro in line was that my mom WOULD have pawned every computer/game system in the house. She didn't threaten. She stated. one statement. One "you are close" warning. then it was GONE. And she spoke no further words, listened to no further words.</p><p></p><p>Are you willing to take ALL the keyboards and mice and controllers away and lock them somewhere securely?</p><p></p><p>Are you willing to RETURN ALL the gifts you bought for him AND spend the money on yourself and husband? LEt him have a year with a boring book or 2 under the tree. Period. It might get through.</p><p></p><p>These things may not work. Or they might. As far as I have seen with my Wiz, the ONLY times I could get through were when I could MAKE him do hard physical labor to repay me for whatever he did, and if/when I was willing to go to the extreme of totally outlawing something and making it stick. (I even went to the tech people at school and made them take him off the school computer so he couldn't log in at ALL. It helped, until the idiot SP ED teacher let him use HER computer and password (and wrote into his IEP that he could use HER password - and signed MY name to the change!).. This was a HUGE battle, because the teachers INSISTED that they couldn't teach ANYTHING with-o the computer. (I offered to buy workbooks and textbooks - with a smile).</p><p></p><p>Computers are his big THING. It really stinks, but you have to figure out how to either back down on this or make it happen. because the way it is, he is winning. And that is ALL that matters to him right now. Winning over you. </p><p></p><p>So figure out what you are willing to do. What you WANT to do. What you can live with. And then make it happen. </p><p></p><p>If you have to go tothe school and demand that NO computer assignments be given due to his disability, make it happen. Fight them (I will help if I can), and then see what he will do to get it back. If it really matters that much.</p><p></p><p>I don't have any real concrete advice, just my support for whatever you decide to do. </p><p></p><p>I WOULD make schoolwork the responsibility of school though. No more ??s about homework. No letting them pass him if he doesn't do the work (in our area if they don't pass the end of instruction test they CANNOT go to the next grade), but make it hard and fast that there is NO parental responsibility for homework. It will just tear you apart.</p><p></p><p>Anyway,</p><p></p><p>Gentle hugs and much love. I am sorry and I have been there done that. I even have had to take keyboard, mouse and controller from my HUSBAND a time or two. Talk about being your husband's mommy, sheesh.</p><p></p><p>Know we love you!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 222699, member: 1233"] I know the only thing that kept my bro in line was that my mom WOULD have pawned every computer/game system in the house. She didn't threaten. She stated. one statement. One "you are close" warning. then it was GONE. And she spoke no further words, listened to no further words. Are you willing to take ALL the keyboards and mice and controllers away and lock them somewhere securely? Are you willing to RETURN ALL the gifts you bought for him AND spend the money on yourself and husband? LEt him have a year with a boring book or 2 under the tree. Period. It might get through. These things may not work. Or they might. As far as I have seen with my Wiz, the ONLY times I could get through were when I could MAKE him do hard physical labor to repay me for whatever he did, and if/when I was willing to go to the extreme of totally outlawing something and making it stick. (I even went to the tech people at school and made them take him off the school computer so he couldn't log in at ALL. It helped, until the idiot SP ED teacher let him use HER computer and password (and wrote into his IEP that he could use HER password - and signed MY name to the change!).. This was a HUGE battle, because the teachers INSISTED that they couldn't teach ANYTHING with-o the computer. (I offered to buy workbooks and textbooks - with a smile). Computers are his big THING. It really stinks, but you have to figure out how to either back down on this or make it happen. because the way it is, he is winning. And that is ALL that matters to him right now. Winning over you. So figure out what you are willing to do. What you WANT to do. What you can live with. And then make it happen. If you have to go tothe school and demand that NO computer assignments be given due to his disability, make it happen. Fight them (I will help if I can), and then see what he will do to get it back. If it really matters that much. I don't have any real concrete advice, just my support for whatever you decide to do. I WOULD make schoolwork the responsibility of school though. No more ??s about homework. No letting them pass him if he doesn't do the work (in our area if they don't pass the end of instruction test they CANNOT go to the next grade), but make it hard and fast that there is NO parental responsibility for homework. It will just tear you apart. Anyway, Gentle hugs and much love. I am sorry and I have been there done that. I even have had to take keyboard, mouse and controller from my HUSBAND a time or two. Talk about being your husband's mommy, sheesh. Know we love you! [/QUOTE]
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