This will probably either get deleted by the mods or moved to WC but I'm hoping many of you will see it here first. Eeky had posted to Jennifer about her concerns with the way Jennifer was handling the whole sex issue with her easy child. Jennifer corrected a few misconceptions but they basically got into it. No problem with that with me. However, Eeky said she was leaving. I PMed her and told her she shouldn't leave. Members had disagreements. Personally, I thought she brought some welcome insight because she was young and an older sister rather than another parent. Anyway, she is still leaving but not because of Jennifer but because several members had PMed her. Apparently the kindest thing said was incredibly sanctimonious and condescending to me -- telling her she's young and not a mom and will know how to post better after she's been here awhile. Some members apparently really chewed her out and said some pretty hateful things. Eeky did not go into specifics to me nor did she name names. She simply appreciated my concern and wanted to let me know she was leaving because of other members rather than the one issue. I find it very sad that members would chastise someone because they're not (1) a parent, (2) younger (not that 27 is all that young) and (3) speak bluntly. I feel the more viewpoints we have, the better. If someone doesn't say things "nicely," then maybe a gentle prod by the moderators is in order but certainly not a slew of PMs by other members. It's nice that our friends get our support but not at the cost of hurting someone new who also needs our help and support. There are some members here that I flat out do not like. A couple of new ones, a couple of old ones. Even so, I would never dream of PMing them and chastising them for the way they post. I choose to not reply to their threads unless I truly believe their actions are hurting their children. Otherwise, I stay away from their posts. If I can't say it publicly, I'm certainly not going to say it privately unless I'm talking to someone I consider a friend and we're just being gossipy. I certainly wouldn't go out of my way to try to hurt another member. I think those of you who PMed Eeky owe her an apology. She came here seeking help for little sister and stayed around trying to help others. She may not have said things in the gentlest way but neither did I at that age and I only noticed her being blunt when she really felt she wasn't being heard the first time she posted something. It took me 40+ years to learn the little bit of tact I have. At 27, I had somewhere near none. She did not deserve one, let alone several PMs.