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<blockquote data-quote="Steely" data-source="post: 130940" data-attributes="member: 3301"><p>Dara,</p><p></p><p>My son was very similar in regards to not getting cause and effect, and using aggression to get his point across. Probably the biggest thing that the counselors told me is to make sure and show absolutely no emotion when he was raging. My difficult child fed off the negative energy he created when he came at me, or others - even if it was not spoken, but me responding in distress, sadness, anger, etc., he fed off of it. If he got no response other than me walking away or removing him from the situation with-out words, he would change gears.</p><p></p><p>Perhaps that is the same for Sammy. If he is asking you all of the time if you are happy, than he is well aware of the chaos he creates, and at some level is getting some satisfaction out of the power he has to create it. I would try and not speak at all when he is raging. If possible turn your back to him and walk away - or lift him, emotionless, into the proper setting for him to cool down. </p><p></p><p>Consequences with kids like this are not a tangible entity for quite some time - but the attention or lack thereof he receives for his actions is. Even infants can seek attention, and cry if they are hungry. Perhaps Sammy is hitting and hurting you to get your attention that he is miserable, but if not responded to, he will redirect his behavior.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Steely, post: 130940, member: 3301"] Dara, My son was very similar in regards to not getting cause and effect, and using aggression to get his point across. Probably the biggest thing that the counselors told me is to make sure and show absolutely no emotion when he was raging. My difficult child fed off the negative energy he created when he came at me, or others - even if it was not spoken, but me responding in distress, sadness, anger, etc., he fed off of it. If he got no response other than me walking away or removing him from the situation with-out words, he would change gears. Perhaps that is the same for Sammy. If he is asking you all of the time if you are happy, than he is well aware of the chaos he creates, and at some level is getting some satisfaction out of the power he has to create it. I would try and not speak at all when he is raging. If possible turn your back to him and walk away - or lift him, emotionless, into the proper setting for him to cool down. Consequences with kids like this are not a tangible entity for quite some time - but the attention or lack thereof he receives for his actions is. Even infants can seek attention, and cry if they are hungry. Perhaps Sammy is hitting and hurting you to get your attention that he is miserable, but if not responded to, he will redirect his behavior. [/QUOTE]
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