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<blockquote data-quote="ShakespeareMamaX" data-source="post: 131050" data-attributes="member: 3861"><p>This def sounds like my difficult child. He went through an awful stage of taking out severe anger, and only on me. I believe, maybe, kids sometimes take the anger out on the person they are the closest to (just a theory). I used to pul him into my lap on the ground, hug him from behind (criss crossing his arms...but not too hard!), keeping clear of his head (headbutts in anger are NOT fun). In about 15 minutes or so he would be calm enough to try to talk or, at least, function "normally". I learned never to turn by back on him as this only made him more furious and I ended up with a worse attack. This in my opinion, at least with difficult child, is a cry for help, but he doesn't/didn't know how to verbalize it. I also, with difficult child being 8 y/o, get the same "I don't know". Now, though, it pertains to everything. He was sent to his room today for wandering away from his homework 3 times and upon me asking "why...?" </p><p></p><p>"I don't know". </p><p></p><p>All in all, it seems like a lose-lose situation (holy pessimism, batman). I believe my difficult child wants attention. If I give him all the attention he wants, he'll get used to it and won't be able to function without it. If I don't give him the attention he wants, he gets nothing done and keeps acting out. *sigh* I guess all I have are theories and similarities, but no right answers. The restraining I did lasted for a while, but once he started "cycling" again, it began all over. The violence towards me calmed down, but spread throughout everyone else... </p><p></p><p>I'm sorry you're going through this. As I work with my difficult child, I'll let you know what works and doesn't work. Good luck. Keep your head up. <3</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ShakespeareMamaX, post: 131050, member: 3861"] This def sounds like my difficult child. He went through an awful stage of taking out severe anger, and only on me. I believe, maybe, kids sometimes take the anger out on the person they are the closest to (just a theory). I used to pul him into my lap on the ground, hug him from behind (criss crossing his arms...but not too hard!), keeping clear of his head (headbutts in anger are NOT fun). In about 15 minutes or so he would be calm enough to try to talk or, at least, function "normally". I learned never to turn by back on him as this only made him more furious and I ended up with a worse attack. This in my opinion, at least with difficult child, is a cry for help, but he doesn't/didn't know how to verbalize it. I also, with difficult child being 8 y/o, get the same "I don't know". Now, though, it pertains to everything. He was sent to his room today for wandering away from his homework 3 times and upon me asking "why...?" "I don't know". All in all, it seems like a lose-lose situation (holy pessimism, batman). I believe my difficult child wants attention. If I give him all the attention he wants, he'll get used to it and won't be able to function without it. If I don't give him the attention he wants, he gets nothing done and keeps acting out. *sigh* I guess all I have are theories and similarities, but no right answers. The restraining I did lasted for a while, but once he started "cycling" again, it began all over. The violence towards me calmed down, but spread throughout everyone else... I'm sorry you're going through this. As I work with my difficult child, I'll let you know what works and doesn't work. Good luck. Keep your head up. <3 [/QUOTE]
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