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<blockquote data-quote="josie76" data-source="post: 535502" data-attributes="member: 14775"><p>Thanks for the replies! Have only just got a minute to sit down.</p><p></p><p>Buddy - can certainly relate to everything you said there. Sounds like we have very similar problems to deal with. What you say about that inability with Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) to connect things and the reward they get from winding us up, its much more satisfying for them than our goals of just wanting to be calm and settled around them! Really get that. And your trip to the shops - that sounds exactly like my son and the being on edge - its easy to feel like noone goes through this and it is very comforting to know that its not just me and my son. I have had that experience so often where my son will create such a scene if things arent going his way, and at his age, it is so difficult for other people to understand as he looks perfectly normal so my parenting always feels under scrutiny. He also loves to touch my hair - often i like that but again he will take it too far and just grab it if hes over excited which simply hurts then he laughs which doesnt help!</p><p></p><p>Lihaona - that is one method, really the only method i use at present effectively, is to take his keyboard and mouse away so he cant play but i often feel like despite this i am still letting him away with a lot of things as i fear that if i used a zero tolerance approach to try to eliminate the behaviour entirely then he would jsut never get on his easy child at all as he misbehaves so much. Not sure if he would learn with doing that kind of thing all the time but i am thinking of trying it to see. Feel like im too soft and maybe that would break this cycle, just like Stepto2 suggested. Feel totally stuck right now.</p><p></p><p>I am so pleased to have found this forum, so so helpful to hear other peoples experience and advice, makes such a difference..</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="josie76, post: 535502, member: 14775"] Thanks for the replies! Have only just got a minute to sit down. Buddy - can certainly relate to everything you said there. Sounds like we have very similar problems to deal with. What you say about that inability with Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) to connect things and the reward they get from winding us up, its much more satisfying for them than our goals of just wanting to be calm and settled around them! Really get that. And your trip to the shops - that sounds exactly like my son and the being on edge - its easy to feel like noone goes through this and it is very comforting to know that its not just me and my son. I have had that experience so often where my son will create such a scene if things arent going his way, and at his age, it is so difficult for other people to understand as he looks perfectly normal so my parenting always feels under scrutiny. He also loves to touch my hair - often i like that but again he will take it too far and just grab it if hes over excited which simply hurts then he laughs which doesnt help! Lihaona - that is one method, really the only method i use at present effectively, is to take his keyboard and mouse away so he cant play but i often feel like despite this i am still letting him away with a lot of things as i fear that if i used a zero tolerance approach to try to eliminate the behaviour entirely then he would jsut never get on his easy child at all as he misbehaves so much. Not sure if he would learn with doing that kind of thing all the time but i am thinking of trying it to see. Feel like im too soft and maybe that would break this cycle, just like Stepto2 suggested. Feel totally stuck right now. I am so pleased to have found this forum, so so helpful to hear other peoples experience and advice, makes such a difference.. [/QUOTE]
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