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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 419599" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>Since I have been coming to this forum, I have seen that other parents have to deal with very grave situations indeed. I sometimes feel that what I have to deal with in my son is lightweight by comparison... but it doesn't matter. Each person faces what they have to face. Most parents of "normal" children think that I have a difficult job on my hands... </p><p>What I have discovered about my little boy is that he WILL listen and be co-operative if I approach him in the right way. As I have said a few times, things are easier now than they were some weeks or months back. However, something that does continue and which does concern me is what I think you call in the States "backchat". Not really so much because he offends me but because I know it will not stand J in good stead in the world, that it is not good to speak to people as though you do not respect them... I have begun to be severe with him when he does this, telling him that he is not to speak to grown-ups like this (in a severe tone of voice). I do find it annoying though, and inappropriate in a four year old. Even if sometimes I secretly agree with him... eg he is itching a lot at the moment because of some allergic reaction and this morning I told him not to itch his foot, as he was. He immediately countered with "No, Mummy, it's not your foot, it's my foot, and I want to itch it!" - which actually I think is fair enough...</p><p>Anyway, if anyone has suggestions or thoughts about this backchat or how to deal with it, I would be grateful... It is a small thing, comparatively, and yet my sense is that oaks grow from little acorns...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 419599, member: 11227"] Since I have been coming to this forum, I have seen that other parents have to deal with very grave situations indeed. I sometimes feel that what I have to deal with in my son is lightweight by comparison... but it doesn't matter. Each person faces what they have to face. Most parents of "normal" children think that I have a difficult job on my hands... What I have discovered about my little boy is that he WILL listen and be co-operative if I approach him in the right way. As I have said a few times, things are easier now than they were some weeks or months back. However, something that does continue and which does concern me is what I think you call in the States "backchat". Not really so much because he offends me but because I know it will not stand J in good stead in the world, that it is not good to speak to people as though you do not respect them... I have begun to be severe with him when he does this, telling him that he is not to speak to grown-ups like this (in a severe tone of voice). I do find it annoying though, and inappropriate in a four year old. Even if sometimes I secretly agree with him... eg he is itching a lot at the moment because of some allergic reaction and this morning I told him not to itch his foot, as he was. He immediately countered with "No, Mummy, it's not your foot, it's my foot, and I want to itch it!" - which actually I think is fair enough... Anyway, if anyone has suggestions or thoughts about this backchat or how to deal with it, I would be grateful... It is a small thing, comparatively, and yet my sense is that oaks grow from little acorns... [/QUOTE]
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