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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 440653" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>Well, I have limited expertise in the matter but from what I have seen, read, heard, masturbating in small boys is normal. Not to excess and not continually, obviously. But sexuality in children - ie the discovery of pleasure related to certain sensations - was "revealed" by Freud a century ago and really is not news now... From what I have seen in my son (who is not "normal" either, but there you go <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> ), he sometimes rubs himself; I say nothing but have told him he is not to do in front of other people, and I have never heard tell that he has... So I guess the doing it in public, or the not assimilating that it is socially "taboo" may be of concern. Do you have a good therapist or trusted counsellor you could ask about it?</p><p>As for the violent imagery and talk, I'm not sure. To some extent boys do talk like this, again based on what I've heard, but then say my son would be more extreme than most. He isn't particularly violent towards others (though his gestures are often too brusque and impulsive - in other words he quite often hurts other children without meaning to) but his talk IS sometimes violent. He will say "I am going to cut you!", for example, when he is angry with me. It sounds awful, I know, but I don't actually take it to mean that he is inevitably going to be a dangerous criminal as an adult... It is an extreme thing he says to reflect an extreme emotion. I also used very extreme and passionate language as a child, but did not grow up to be violent...</p><p>So I urge some measure of caution in considering these things. Take them seriously, of course, but remember that children, especially children with "issues", just blurt out whatever comes to mind. It does not mean they are going to act it out. Sometimes it may do, but we cannot take that as automatic. in my humble opinion.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 440653, member: 11227"] Well, I have limited expertise in the matter but from what I have seen, read, heard, masturbating in small boys is normal. Not to excess and not continually, obviously. But sexuality in children - ie the discovery of pleasure related to certain sensations - was "revealed" by Freud a century ago and really is not news now... From what I have seen in my son (who is not "normal" either, but there you go :) ), he sometimes rubs himself; I say nothing but have told him he is not to do in front of other people, and I have never heard tell that he has... So I guess the doing it in public, or the not assimilating that it is socially "taboo" may be of concern. Do you have a good therapist or trusted counsellor you could ask about it? As for the violent imagery and talk, I'm not sure. To some extent boys do talk like this, again based on what I've heard, but then say my son would be more extreme than most. He isn't particularly violent towards others (though his gestures are often too brusque and impulsive - in other words he quite often hurts other children without meaning to) but his talk IS sometimes violent. He will say "I am going to cut you!", for example, when he is angry with me. It sounds awful, I know, but I don't actually take it to mean that he is inevitably going to be a dangerous criminal as an adult... It is an extreme thing he says to reflect an extreme emotion. I also used very extreme and passionate language as a child, but did not grow up to be violent... So I urge some measure of caution in considering these things. Take them seriously, of course, but remember that children, especially children with "issues", just blurt out whatever comes to mind. It does not mean they are going to act it out. Sometimes it may do, but we cannot take that as automatic. in my humble opinion. [/QUOTE]
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