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Do any of you suspect your adult children have any personality disorders?
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<blockquote data-quote="LSH44" data-source="post: 542588" data-attributes="member: 14939"><p>When my difficult child was in 3rd grade, the SD said they suspected she had "ODD" - Oppositional Defiance Disorder. Understand that I don't mean this against anyone, but I don't believe in these diagnosis'. I believe they are a way to pigeon-hole a particular behavior, rather than look at the big picture of the child and make a true diagnosis of mental illness and respond with early proactive treatment. There are children who behave badly. Professionals need to help us find a reason for that early so i can be addressed. Putting a colored label on it such as "ODD - won't accept directions from authority" or "ADD - won't sit still and stop talking"....just puts a band-aid on the problem. As parents, we need professional help to place a correct diagnosis on the child as the whole, so we can start therapy early or begin a medication program early so that they can be as productive and successful as possible.</p><p></p><p>With that said, I suspect my difficult child has borderline personality or is Bi-polar. I got so tired of psychologists telling me when she was a child, that she was just strong-willed. No, she has a problem. But aside from a colored label that would put her into a special education class where she would be treated as simply defective and unable to learn, they offered nothing. So I refused to sign off on the "ODD" label and tried to handle it myself. She is very bright and took advanced AP classes. Had I allowed them to label her as needing "special education", I don't believe she would have gotten that opportunity.</p><p></p><p>In essence, I believe that the schools use such labels as ODD and ADD to corral children with mental illness into one room where they can focus on keeping them and their behaviors away from the other kids and out of the way. While I understand the need to do that, the problem is that they don't focus on learning in those groups. I knew my difficult child was very bright, and there is nothing wrong with her intelligence...and I wasn't going to let them tamper that intelligence. It may have been the wrong decision, but that's the one i made and I don't regret it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LSH44, post: 542588, member: 14939"] When my difficult child was in 3rd grade, the SD said they suspected she had "ODD" - Oppositional Defiance Disorder. Understand that I don't mean this against anyone, but I don't believe in these diagnosis'. I believe they are a way to pigeon-hole a particular behavior, rather than look at the big picture of the child and make a true diagnosis of mental illness and respond with early proactive treatment. There are children who behave badly. Professionals need to help us find a reason for that early so i can be addressed. Putting a colored label on it such as "ODD - won't accept directions from authority" or "ADD - won't sit still and stop talking"....just puts a band-aid on the problem. As parents, we need professional help to place a correct diagnosis on the child as the whole, so we can start therapy early or begin a medication program early so that they can be as productive and successful as possible. With that said, I suspect my difficult child has borderline personality or is Bi-polar. I got so tired of psychologists telling me when she was a child, that she was just strong-willed. No, she has a problem. But aside from a colored label that would put her into a special education class where she would be treated as simply defective and unable to learn, they offered nothing. So I refused to sign off on the "ODD" label and tried to handle it myself. She is very bright and took advanced AP classes. Had I allowed them to label her as needing "special education", I don't believe she would have gotten that opportunity. In essence, I believe that the schools use such labels as ODD and ADD to corral children with mental illness into one room where they can focus on keeping them and their behaviors away from the other kids and out of the way. While I understand the need to do that, the problem is that they don't focus on learning in those groups. I knew my difficult child was very bright, and there is nothing wrong with her intelligence...and I wasn't going to let them tamper that intelligence. It may have been the wrong decision, but that's the one i made and I don't regret it. [/QUOTE]
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