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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 207228" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>Welcome - I agree, you should request an evaluation. Be stern with the doctor and tell him/her you want tests done to determine why these behaviors are happening.</p><p> </p><p>Put everything in writing. Cover everything you stated here plus anything else. Make an outline like this. Write your concern in a short sentence and then in the next indent, list examples. </p><p> </p><p>The following is only an example. If you keep things short, doctors read it easier. (I had a supervisor ask me to report to her in bullet form. She didn't have the time to read paragraph form. I would think it would be the same for many professionals.)</p><p> </p><p>1. Night Terrors</p><p> a. difficult child has had night terrors for the last 2 years.</p><p> b. She is waking atleast 6 out of 7 nights.</p><p> c. She may be sleep deprived</p><p> </p><p>2. Transitioning</p><p> a. difficult child freaks out when I pick her up from day care.</p><p> 1. It is not the normal, "I don't want to stop playing".</p><p> 2. I end up carrying her out kicking and screaming.</p><p> b. When things don't go as she plans, she has a hard time adusting.</p><p> 1. For Example, when a friend gets her backpack without her </p><p> asking, she gets upset. She wasn't expecting this kindness.</p><p> </p><p>3. Seperation anxiety</p><p> a. difficult child throws temper tantrums if husband tries to help me with taking</p><p> care of difficult child. She insist that it must be me.</p><p> </p><p>4. Degree of temper tantrums</p><p> a. difficult child's tantrums are much more intense than normal.</p><p> b. difficult child seems to not be able to handle people in public who may </p><p> happen to look her way.</p><p> </p><p>If you put something in writing, you will be sure not to miss anything. I know doctors can be intimidating and not seeming to take us serious. If you have your concerns in writing, he may take it more seriously. It can also be part of her medical chart so the doctor can not say you didn't report something.</p><p> </p><p>In the meantime, how much transition time is she given? Do the preschool staff prepare her for your arrival? Maybe ask them to let her know 5 minutes before you come that you will be there soon so she should finish with what she is doing. Also, as much as possible, try to let her know what is coming next - "After supper, daddy is going to tuck you into bed, you can give me a goodnight hug before going to bed."</p><p> </p><p>I don't know if it wil help. I do know it will not solve whatever is going on, just trying to provide ways of coping until it is all figured out.</p><p> </p><p>I do agree that much of the behavior is typical yet more intense than normal. Something you need to look into. </p><p> </p><p>I don't think night terrors are normal to have every single night for two years. That might be a clue to what is going on?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 207228, member: 5096"] Welcome - I agree, you should request an evaluation. Be stern with the doctor and tell him/her you want tests done to determine why these behaviors are happening. Put everything in writing. Cover everything you stated here plus anything else. Make an outline like this. Write your concern in a short sentence and then in the next indent, list examples. The following is only an example. If you keep things short, doctors read it easier. (I had a supervisor ask me to report to her in bullet form. She didn't have the time to read paragraph form. I would think it would be the same for many professionals.) 1. Night Terrors a. difficult child has had night terrors for the last 2 years. b. She is waking atleast 6 out of 7 nights. c. She may be sleep deprived 2. Transitioning a. difficult child freaks out when I pick her up from day care. 1. It is not the normal, "I don't want to stop playing". 2. I end up carrying her out kicking and screaming. b. When things don't go as she plans, she has a hard time adusting. 1. For Example, when a friend gets her backpack without her asking, she gets upset. She wasn't expecting this kindness. 3. Seperation anxiety a. difficult child throws temper tantrums if husband tries to help me with taking care of difficult child. She insist that it must be me. 4. Degree of temper tantrums a. difficult child's tantrums are much more intense than normal. b. difficult child seems to not be able to handle people in public who may happen to look her way. If you put something in writing, you will be sure not to miss anything. I know doctors can be intimidating and not seeming to take us serious. If you have your concerns in writing, he may take it more seriously. It can also be part of her medical chart so the doctor can not say you didn't report something. In the meantime, how much transition time is she given? Do the preschool staff prepare her for your arrival? Maybe ask them to let her know 5 minutes before you come that you will be there soon so she should finish with what she is doing. Also, as much as possible, try to let her know what is coming next - "After supper, daddy is going to tuck you into bed, you can give me a goodnight hug before going to bed." I don't know if it wil help. I do know it will not solve whatever is going on, just trying to provide ways of coping until it is all figured out. I do agree that much of the behavior is typical yet more intense than normal. Something you need to look into. I don't think night terrors are normal to have every single night for two years. That might be a clue to what is going on? [/QUOTE]
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