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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 605586" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I've spoken about my mother. Now I'm going to tell you about my father, who has plenty of money and always did. He is a retired pharmacist and had many stores.</p><p></p><p>We had no new clothes. My mom sewed all our clothes. We never took vacations. He never handed us any money, in fact he complained he didn't have any. More recently, about six years ago we were almost homeless and I called him in tears and he told him me, "It's not my responsibility. I have my own problems to worry about." He hung up and wouldn't talk to me for a month because his giving us money is out of the question and it always was out of the question. Does that make him horrible? He probably has as much money as your mother does.</p><p></p><p>I don't really think it makes my father horrible. He could get very sick (he's 89) and need nursing home care, which goes right through your money. He worked hard for his money and has traveled all over t he world and spent our inheritance...lol...but why didn't he deserve to travel all over the world? I just see it differently. He isn't a particularly nice man, as my mother was not a nice woman. My father has made comments about my sister and I marrying "poor, useless men." (I'd match my great husband against him any day, but he only thinks about money). </p><p></p><p>I survived almost being homeless. Hub and I worked it out without him. When he passes on, whatever is left, I will get one-third of it. To be honest, I rarely think about it. As for taking any of us with him on a holiday, let alone his grands, lololol. Are you kidding? He never even bothered to visit his great-grandchild. He has never seen him because now he is in Missouri and he didn't bother to visit him the first three years of his life. Family is not important to my father. Never has been. Never will be. Maybe that's why I don't think DNA equals your family. </p><p></p><p>At any rate, I have never told my father how selfish he is and he is VERY selfish. I suspect he is a narcissist but I never told him that either. Ask yourself what the point would be to confront your mother? Will it change her? </p><p></p><p>You have to make this decision on your own. Please share it with us, if you don't mind. I'm curious as to what you do and how she will react.</p><p></p><p>Hugs!!!! <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 605586, member: 1550"] I've spoken about my mother. Now I'm going to tell you about my father, who has plenty of money and always did. He is a retired pharmacist and had many stores. We had no new clothes. My mom sewed all our clothes. We never took vacations. He never handed us any money, in fact he complained he didn't have any. More recently, about six years ago we were almost homeless and I called him in tears and he told him me, "It's not my responsibility. I have my own problems to worry about." He hung up and wouldn't talk to me for a month because his giving us money is out of the question and it always was out of the question. Does that make him horrible? He probably has as much money as your mother does. I don't really think it makes my father horrible. He could get very sick (he's 89) and need nursing home care, which goes right through your money. He worked hard for his money and has traveled all over t he world and spent our inheritance...lol...but why didn't he deserve to travel all over the world? I just see it differently. He isn't a particularly nice man, as my mother was not a nice woman. My father has made comments about my sister and I marrying "poor, useless men." (I'd match my great husband against him any day, but he only thinks about money). I survived almost being homeless. Hub and I worked it out without him. When he passes on, whatever is left, I will get one-third of it. To be honest, I rarely think about it. As for taking any of us with him on a holiday, let alone his grands, lololol. Are you kidding? He never even bothered to visit his great-grandchild. He has never seen him because now he is in Missouri and he didn't bother to visit him the first three years of his life. Family is not important to my father. Never has been. Never will be. Maybe that's why I don't think DNA equals your family. At any rate, I have never told my father how selfish he is and he is VERY selfish. I suspect he is a narcissist but I never told him that either. Ask yourself what the point would be to confront your mother? Will it change her? You have to make this decision on your own. Please share it with us, if you don't mind. I'm curious as to what you do and how she will react. Hugs!!!! :) [/QUOTE]
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