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<blockquote data-quote="mom_to_3" data-source="post: 605610" data-attributes="member: 30"><p>I think by talking to your mother about this, you will be creating more problems for yourself mainly. I think you will be the one who is more hurt by having a discussion. Your mother is who she is. From what you say, this has been her M.O. for as long as you've know her. You will not change her, nor should you. Your mother is entitled to be who she is, as you are. I would be insulted if really anyone (but especially my child) came up to me and said I was selfish and that they expected more $$$, time or whatever out of me. She can be who she is and YOU can decide how involved you allow yourself to be involved with her if you disagree with the type person she is. The world is big enough for many different types of people.</p><p></p><p>I've had a discussion with my own mother about some things that were upsetting to me. To be honest, I was shocked by her response. I really think, how you are feeling and how I felt has more to do with our emotional needs needing to being met. We are not going to be able to get that from them, because they don't know how to give that to us. It is not malicious by my mother or your mother. It's just who they are and again they are entitled to be the people they are. We have to come to terms with whatever relationship we have with them. You can't ask a person to give you more than what they are capable of.</p><p></p><p>I am at a point in my life that I chose to look and dwell on the positive. The biggest thing I have control of is how *I* feel and what *I* chose to dwell on. I am all about peace, love and happiness (to the best of my ability!)</p><p></p><p>You have a beautiful and generous soul Tammy. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> I hope you are able to come to peace with this, for your own happiness.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mom_to_3, post: 605610, member: 30"] I think by talking to your mother about this, you will be creating more problems for yourself mainly. I think you will be the one who is more hurt by having a discussion. Your mother is who she is. From what you say, this has been her M.O. for as long as you've know her. You will not change her, nor should you. Your mother is entitled to be who she is, as you are. I would be insulted if really anyone (but especially my child) came up to me and said I was selfish and that they expected more $$$, time or whatever out of me. She can be who she is and YOU can decide how involved you allow yourself to be involved with her if you disagree with the type person she is. The world is big enough for many different types of people. I've had a discussion with my own mother about some things that were upsetting to me. To be honest, I was shocked by her response. I really think, how you are feeling and how I felt has more to do with our emotional needs needing to being met. We are not going to be able to get that from them, because they don't know how to give that to us. It is not malicious by my mother or your mother. It's just who they are and again they are entitled to be the people they are. We have to come to terms with whatever relationship we have with them. You can't ask a person to give you more than what they are capable of. I am at a point in my life that I chose to look and dwell on the positive. The biggest thing I have control of is how *I* feel and what *I* chose to dwell on. I am all about peace, love and happiness (to the best of my ability!) You have a beautiful and generous soul Tammy. :) I hope you are able to come to peace with this, for your own happiness. [/QUOTE]
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