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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 584626" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>I know the feeling all too well - and my relationship with my difficult child haven't even been fragile in some time. There has been more strained times but currently we are in rather strong footing. But I think a lot what and how I say things to him. And at times worry after our calls, that I said something too little or too much or wrong way and that would cause him to get upset and blaah, blaah, blaah. </p><p></p><p>I do have a point in there. Words can hurt. Especially words from people who are close to you. My kid is sensitive in his own way and quite labile. His thought process is unique (well, everyone's is but he takes it little further) and he is prone to understand thing unconventionally and he is certainly a dramaqueen. The whelp can concoct drama out changed picture in milk cartoon when he puts his mind into it. He can certainly get himself worked up over something I say. And you never know, when he is looking a reason to have his next real princess and a pea-episode and get stuck to something he would in any other day not even think twice. If it would be all made up drama for dramatics sake, I wouldn't worry, but it isn't. For him, when it is happening and even some time afterwards, it is very real and very big. He is able to put it into a perspective and laugh for himself later, but it takes some time. May take weeks if it is over something important even if it is not really real. I mean, if it is over something trivial and with little emotional importance, he is able to think it out quite quickly. But if it is over something that would be big if it weren't just his flawed perception, it takes him more time to think it out again and see it from more objective angle, because until he can do that, it is real to him and he gets anxious over it and gets more dramatic and less able to analyse. And I really don't want to send him to that vicious circle.</p><p></p><p>I'm quite careful what and how I talk to him especially when he is having more difficult time, but still at times I do second guess myself over something I said. It's easier when I can talk with him in person. Then it is easier to see how much, when and which way I can say something.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 584626, member: 14557"] I know the feeling all too well - and my relationship with my difficult child haven't even been fragile in some time. There has been more strained times but currently we are in rather strong footing. But I think a lot what and how I say things to him. And at times worry after our calls, that I said something too little or too much or wrong way and that would cause him to get upset and blaah, blaah, blaah. I do have a point in there. Words can hurt. Especially words from people who are close to you. My kid is sensitive in his own way and quite labile. His thought process is unique (well, everyone's is but he takes it little further) and he is prone to understand thing unconventionally and he is certainly a dramaqueen. The whelp can concoct drama out changed picture in milk cartoon when he puts his mind into it. He can certainly get himself worked up over something I say. And you never know, when he is looking a reason to have his next real princess and a pea-episode and get stuck to something he would in any other day not even think twice. If it would be all made up drama for dramatics sake, I wouldn't worry, but it isn't. For him, when it is happening and even some time afterwards, it is very real and very big. He is able to put it into a perspective and laugh for himself later, but it takes some time. May take weeks if it is over something important even if it is not really real. I mean, if it is over something trivial and with little emotional importance, he is able to think it out quite quickly. But if it is over something that would be big if it weren't just his flawed perception, it takes him more time to think it out again and see it from more objective angle, because until he can do that, it is real to him and he gets anxious over it and gets more dramatic and less able to analyse. And I really don't want to send him to that vicious circle. I'm quite careful what and how I talk to him especially when he is having more difficult time, but still at times I do second guess myself over something I said. It's easier when I can talk with him in person. Then it is easier to see how much, when and which way I can say something. [/QUOTE]
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