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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 26887" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>I think T gets Love. But I don't think he interprets it quite the same as we do. I'm not sure if I can even put it into words. But at least he never uses Love to lash out and hurt. So I guess that is something.</p><p></p><p>N and I have talked about this. She used to be great at screaming "I hate you!" with such passion it could really hurt to hear it.</p><p></p><p>N swears she never once meant it. Regrets ever saying it. But is not so sure why it is pretty much the first thing to come out of her mouth when she's raging. She says most of the time she doesn't even hear herself saying it. (among other things)</p><p></p><p>And I do have to say she is remorseful after a rage. She's a lousy actress, too. So I've never had her try to fake regret. If N doesn't regret what she's said, she's the first to tell you straight out. lol</p><p></p><p>I've learned not to pay attention to it at all. At those times they become just words. Nothing more. No meaning. Just words shouted in a rage.</p><p></p><p>N is trying to learn to pay attention to what she has pouring out of her mouth during rages. This is not easy for her at all. There are times when I can really see her struggling to keep a grip on her control. And by me not giving them any meaning, it helps keep me from responding in such a way as to make the situation worse. I keep hoping with much practice with this at home it will be much easier for her when dealing with other people. (those who <strong>are </strong> going to attach meaning to her words)</p><p></p><p>Strange how having the baby has helped N so much. Aubrey is teaching N better than I ever could what real love is, and what is truely important in relationships. I know since the baby has been born N has learned so much that I could never get thru to her no matter how I tried.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 26887, member: 84"] I think T gets Love. But I don't think he interprets it quite the same as we do. I'm not sure if I can even put it into words. But at least he never uses Love to lash out and hurt. So I guess that is something. N and I have talked about this. She used to be great at screaming "I hate you!" with such passion it could really hurt to hear it. N swears she never once meant it. Regrets ever saying it. But is not so sure why it is pretty much the first thing to come out of her mouth when she's raging. She says most of the time she doesn't even hear herself saying it. (among other things) And I do have to say she is remorseful after a rage. She's a lousy actress, too. So I've never had her try to fake regret. If N doesn't regret what she's said, she's the first to tell you straight out. lol I've learned not to pay attention to it at all. At those times they become just words. Nothing more. No meaning. Just words shouted in a rage. N is trying to learn to pay attention to what she has pouring out of her mouth during rages. This is not easy for her at all. There are times when I can really see her struggling to keep a grip on her control. And by me not giving them any meaning, it helps keep me from responding in such a way as to make the situation worse. I keep hoping with much practice with this at home it will be much easier for her when dealing with other people. (those who [b]are [/b] going to attach meaning to her words) Strange how having the baby has helped N so much. Aubrey is teaching N better than I ever could what real love is, and what is truely important in relationships. I know since the baby has been born N has learned so much that I could never get thru to her no matter how I tried. [/QUOTE]
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