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Do we fall out of love with our children?
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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 125345" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p>{{{Barbara}}} I don't know and definitely cannot begin to guess at what this new emotion you're feeling is, but my heart just kind of broke a little reading your post. Just made me sad to think that after all the effort we put into caring for them, and then letting it all go unwillingly but for their (and our) own well-being, we may end up letting go forever. </p><p> </p><p>on the other hand, maybe because we wrap ourselves up in their lives to such a horrifying degree, when we're faced with what would be considered a 'normal' adult child/parent relationship, we don't recognize it? </p><p> </p><p>When I speak with easy child on the phone and/or she visits, I still feel love for her of course, but our relationship is on a different level now. She's not quite a peer or contemporary, but she's a co-adult in most ways, so it's just different. When she calls me with a problem, she's using me more as a sounding board rather than when she was younger and so unsure and called me for help. Now I can just let her vent and offer some tidbits of advice or nothing at all and just assure her that she can figure it out on her own. We've moved into a new dimension. </p><p> </p><p>Anyway, just kind of thinking out loud and offering some hugs~</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 125345, member: 2211"] {{{Barbara}}} I don't know and definitely cannot begin to guess at what this new emotion you're feeling is, but my heart just kind of broke a little reading your post. Just made me sad to think that after all the effort we put into caring for them, and then letting it all go unwillingly but for their (and our) own well-being, we may end up letting go forever. on the other hand, maybe because we wrap ourselves up in their lives to such a horrifying degree, when we're faced with what would be considered a 'normal' adult child/parent relationship, we don't recognize it? When I speak with easy child on the phone and/or she visits, I still feel love for her of course, but our relationship is on a different level now. She's not quite a peer or contemporary, but she's a co-adult in most ways, so it's just different. When she calls me with a problem, she's using me more as a sounding board rather than when she was younger and so unsure and called me for help. Now I can just let her vent and offer some tidbits of advice or nothing at all and just assure her that she can figure it out on her own. We've moved into a new dimension. Anyway, just kind of thinking out loud and offering some hugs~ [/QUOTE]
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